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25 Responses to “Would You Like Proof That Your Spouse Is Cheating? Now You Can!”
April 2nd, 2008 at 11:39 am
I understand the impulse to catch a cheating spouse with his or her pants down, so to speak, but using a GPS System to spy on them? That sounds a little Fatal Attraction-ish. If I’m with someone I have so little trust in, the relationship is probably doomed anyway.
April 3rd, 2008 at 1:03 pm
Well,
I can see a huge market developing for this. After all, all those GPS systems in new cars were built for this very purpose, although I suspect the government had more plans for them than suspicious spouses do!
April 3rd, 2008 at 5:29 pm
I guess people just have to take drastic measures sometimes. What I don’t understand is why people go through the trouble of trying so hard not to get caught. Why not just come out with it, and then you can spend all the time you want with that other person that you want to be with.
April 4th, 2008 at 2:13 am
I think the market for things like this is ridiculous and is more about claiming alimony by proving that the other party is ‘guilty’. Let’s face it, if you’re desperate enough to want to spy on your partner then your relationship is doomed whether you catch them out or not.
April 11th, 2008 at 6:56 pm
I think that first of all, I would probably have a good reason to suspect something was wrong in the first place. Then, it wouldn’t take much for me to do my own detective work and bust him right in the act!
April 14th, 2008 at 8:33 pm
Calypso, I personally think this is super cool.
I have a wonderful husband so I regret I wouldn’t be able to put this one to the test.
April 14th, 2008 at 9:30 pm
Trick-r-treat, you know what they say about having your cake on the side and eating it too.
It’s just wrong and these cheaters need to get caught so they stop what they are doing.
April 15th, 2008 at 10:14 am
Green-Moo,
Many states are “no -fault” divorce states, meaning the reason for the divorce never has to be disclosed and is assumed to be “irreconcilable differences”.
Maintenance, no longer called alimony in these states, is more often based on financial need without consideration for the emotional distress caused by a cheater.
The need or desire to catch the offending party in the act is often a personal goal, and psychological warfare. Some people want to strip the offending party of their notions of having the upper hand.
April 15th, 2008 at 7:34 pm
Green-Moo, makes you kind of wonder what people were thinking when they get into relationships.
And what the other party is thinking by getting into a relationship with these psychos.
LOL!
April 18th, 2008 at 12:30 pm
Sagemother, I understand how the wronged party would want to turn the tables and feel that they had the upper hand. But does it achieve anything in the long run?
April 21st, 2008 at 8:49 am
I can see wanting to be acknowledged as the “wronged” party, but again I think high-tech spying may be going a wee bit too far. Even if I wasn’t having an affair, I would be furious if my partner spied on me. Talk about a deal breaker!
April 21st, 2008 at 6:47 pm
Trick-r-treat, we should always listen to our gut instincts that something is not right.
I really believe that once we start looking for proof, is because we want to have our gut instinct proven wrong. Don’t you think?
April 24th, 2008 at 11:09 pm
SageMother, and with that common mentality…. private investigators are really popular with couples going through cheating problems.
Sometimes though we lose sight about our emotional condition because when you really strip all that hatred away, what is left?
April 26th, 2008 at 12:45 am
Green-Moo,
For the person who chooses this option, it accomplishes everything in the world. For those who don’t feel the need, it accomplishes nothing.
April 26th, 2008 at 12:47 am
Diva,
When the hatred is finally exhausted, you still have yourself and your other goals.
No one is ever an empty vessel.
April 26th, 2008 at 6:23 am
Calypso, I think you are right. I would view spying as an invasion of my privacy and a breakdown in trust, either of which would make me question whether i wanted to continue a relationship with the spy irrespective of whether I was guilty of cheating.
April 28th, 2008 at 1:00 pm
Green-Moo, it never does.
But for some perverse reason, I do find it entertaining sometimes looking in as a third party. You can really see the problem even if the two people involved don’t.
April 29th, 2008 at 9:21 am
Hmmm … you have a point there Imaginary Diva. Sometimes you can be so close to a problem that you just can’t see it yourself.
April 30th, 2008 at 3:54 pm
Calypso, oh, I’m sure your hubby is comforted with the knowledge of having a forever kind of relationship. And I’m sure women who are in a position of having stable relationships don’t have spouses that spy on them.
May 5th, 2008 at 12:01 pm
SageMother, we all have our ways of dealing with hurt and it will need to be played out whether we take the more accepted road or the other.
May 5th, 2008 at 12:02 pm
SageMother, I think being mad and hating someone can be actually beneficial to our personal growth as a human being. I remember the times when I was so mad that I knew I had to do much more fun and exciting things to make him feel that I’ve done something with my life after he left. In the end, it really did make my life feel better.
May 5th, 2008 at 12:04 pm
Green-Moo, so if you are not doing anything out of the ordinary and you find out your man is spying on you, I’d say don’t even hesitate to leave because the least of your worries is whether he thinks you are cheating or not.
He’s turned out something of a psycho and god knows what else he’ll end up doing!
May 6th, 2008 at 12:53 pm
Green-Moo, sometimes it does need to have a third party interpret what’s going on.
May 22nd, 2008 at 12:36 am
I’m wondering whether we are practicing double standards here? Here, we’re discussion how your partner spying on you could be considered to be grounds to leave. Yet on other threads there’s support for the idea of ‘checking up’ on your partner. So how come it’s OK for you to do it to him, but it’s not OK when the tables are turned?
June 24th, 2008 at 9:41 pm
Green-Moo, isn’t it all just about double standards. This is probably where the relationship goes wrong in the beginning.