Comments on: Homewrecker

By: Abandoned mom

Abandoned mom — Sun, 11 Apr 2010 10:39:50 +0000

If the husband is miserable in a marriage with kids, it is his responsibility to work things out. See a marriage counselor. My husband refused to see a marriage counselor then one day he told my 10 year old he was going to the dry cleaners with his arm full of clothes. His plan was to live with the other woman and never come back. We had a hectic and stressful life but if we both took the time to seek help, we would still be a family and my three young kids wouldn’t be so confused!

By: Tara Tulips

Tara Tulips — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 22:16:57 +0000

“Thats Horrible” last timeI checked making threatening and harrassing calls is illegal and stalking. I had a boyfriend do that to me several years back and he was put on probabtion for two years plue an order of protection. Take action!PLUS the same rules apply to that one way or another in all states check into that

By: justontime

justontime — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 13:34:17 +0000

That’s what I meant Tara Tulips, what goes around comes around, but sometimes it take a while for that to happen.

By: Tara Tulips

Tara Tulips — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 02:32:52 +0000

Fate catches up to those who deserve it.

By: justontime

justontime — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 14:48:23 +0000

I agree with you on one thing fate tends to catch up with people in the end. I think you are unfair to this site, it offers a lot of help to people. I don’t think it would ever be justified to get involved with a married man (or woman) but it takes two. Don’t just blame the woman if it was the man who broke his vows. Having said all that I really feel for people who have been cheated on and I can understand why they may want to blame the other person rather than their partner.

By: Carolyn

Carolyn — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 04:18:42 +0000

This Is Horrible, you are exactly on target. There are women out there who are predators, who trespass on other women’s lives, who set out to mate poach. You were entitled to trust and depend on your husband and he let you down in the most terrifying and fundamental way. You’ve joined a club no one wants to belong to. This site has a a certain number of home wreckers or home wrecker wannabes who feel compelled to blame the wife. It’s nonsense. They seek to justify their sleaze by blaming the wife. Don’t fall for it. Karma has a kick. You stand tall. They are the slime.

By: justontime

justontime — Tue, 16 Feb 2010 15:16:03 +0000

I really feel for you in that situation. Her ongoing behaviour is vindictive in the extreme. Maybe he should keep a record of the emails and threatening voice mail and tell his company the truth. At least then he could get in first rather than living in fear of her doing it. I hope they would take his very sad family circumstances into account. I guess he could also get an injunction against her to stop her threats. I really don’t know what to suggest, it is not a good time to be looking for another job. I do hope you can stop her antics very soon, it is the last thing you need.

By: this is horrible

this is horrible — Mon, 15 Feb 2010 11:10:05 +0000

I aplogize if I offended anyone trying to help me. I do not take back any of the sentiments expressed about the wrongdoings of BOTH the husband and the cheater. I do thank you for any support you can give me. I guess the wounds are just too fresh. I can say this though. My husband and I are working hard to make things better. We go to counselling and we don’t even talk about that woman. It is good. We are getting along and trying to be positive and hopefully work through this and past this. I agree wholehearted ly that it is not healthy or productive to focus on that other person. I just wanted to be able to set the scene- accurately, so that others who have been in the same boat can compare- but, more importantly, if I could give pause to even one homewrecker or cheater by calling them BOTH out on their actions- well, maybe some good would come of it. As I said no man in any marriage ,good or bad, has a right to cheat. It is wrong- he is free to do what he wants- but there is no justification.
I do want to share the one persistent problem we are having as a couple. We will be going along fine and then a she will call him with some trumped up work issue. He handles it via email and then she leaves him threatening voicemails if he doesn’t call her directly. She threatens to expose him at work, and expose the work related parts of their affair. He is forced to work at the same company until he can find a new job. We have a family. He has been looking, but there are lots of good people out there looking for jobs. She leaves him antagonistic and outright threatening voicemails about 1-2x every 2 weeks or so.It is very upsetting to me. I worry about his job and I worry about my husband. He is so wracked with guilt- he knows he did this to us and to our family. He has told this woman when it was over that he loved his wife, he was sorry , and that he did not love her. She is angry now and just wants to see him suffer and for our family to suffer under her constant threats. It is a huge mess. I wish she would just leave us alone, have mercy on me and my kids, and accept my husband’s choice gracefully. If you could provide any advice that would keep me from being saddened by these threats- I would appreciate it. And I pray that I haven’t given any malicious homewreckers any ideas on how to continue to torment a man and his family once she is scorned.

By: stav

stav — Sun, 14 Feb 2010 15:07:25 +0000

As justontime says, you are doing yourself no good with these destructive thoughts. I realise you feel a need to lash out,and we are handy anonymous targets.. Well if it helps then fire away, I think we can take it.

By: justontime

justontime — Sun, 14 Feb 2010 10:52:28 +0000

How dare you be critical of other women that you know nothing about. I can understand that you are hurting but you are not helping yourself. I offered you kind words of advice. No one said that the other woman was right to do what she did, but your issue is with your husband not her. I am deeply sorry about your loss, having faced the devastation of a very close bereavement myself my heart goes out to you. It is natural that you are angry, but it is a very distructive emotion. Please focus on what the two of you still have and find a way to move forward. As for the othe woman, forget her, people reap what they sew. I am not saying that for her benefit, I am saying it for your good, feeling bitter and angry about it is harming you and she really isn’t worth wasting your time or emotions on. Please don’t assume you have the monopoly on moral standards, I was raised with high standards much like you were, and most of the other people I have met on this site have a strong moral code too. Please don’t let your anger and bitterness cause you to alienate people who could offer you some support.