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There is a woman in Baton Rouge, LA that works for a hospital and is a dietician named Angelina. “Angie” is married and had an affair with a married man and nearly destroyed his marriage.Â
He has 2 children and a wife and was happily married until she seduced him one night. She is a homewrecker and needs to be exposed.
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My turn, Tiffany Baker lives in Las Cruces, New Mexico where she enjoys living with her parents and her son at the ripe old age of 32. She has no career. Depends on her family who has money to pay her way.
Her hobbies include chasing after and dating married men includig mine until I busted them both, called her and threatened her with her life if she ever came near my husband again. She also spends her empty pathetic life at the bars alone trying to pick up anything in Wranglers. Yet another piece of dog crap that is exposed!
Well, I was going to ask the first poster if the man that was cheating was her husband. The second poster left no question in my mind. Ladies, if you are outing cheaters, where is your husband’s name? Isn’t he also a cheater? Men are 50% responsible for cheating; anything else your man tells you is another lie.
I agree with Molly. Unless the man was raped, sex is a 50/50 proposition. Actually, if I found out my partner was cheating, I’d be more angry at them than I would at the “other woman.” My partner owes me loyalty. Some woman whom I’ve never met before doesn’t.
Calypso, you are so right.
It is amazing how the wife will blame the other woman instead of looking at the husband first. It feels as if this happens because the wife has always been powerless in the marriage, and doesn’t dare confront the husband over his behavior.
After all, the other woman may be just as powerless, and is a safer target for the wife’s anger!
I agree with the wife about posting the trash. I am sure her husband is getting what he deserves on his end. YOU GO GIRL!!!
As women we owe ourselves and each other the respect of keeping away from married/taken men. Yeah my husband did what he did, he was at fault, but when and where do these sorry excuses for women hold the reponsibility?
Frankly, I’m tired of people saying the OW doesn’t owe us anything. She does. She needs to be held responsible. This attitide of “let her go” has got to stop! This is why they do this. It will never cost them a thing if we just leave them
be. Call me vengeful or whatever you will. They know exactly what they are doing when they contiue a relationship knowing that the man is taken. I myself have gone through this as a little girl when my dad cheated on my mom and now I got a dose of it myself. Because of this I would NEVER be with a man that I knew was married because you are not just hurting a marriage, you’re destroying a family when you go through with it. urexposed, he is getting it and plenty of it on his end and will continue to do so until I see fit (thanks for the support).
TO AMC: Your welcome for the support. You are so right about the women who are the ones seeking to destroy marriages. Some of those homewreckers actually go out looking for only married men. They need exposure. They need to pay for what they are doing to families. They need to STOP!
TO ME: (the original poster) I dont care if you are the wife or just someone who knows what kind of woman that homewrecker is. I APPLAUD YOU!! Keep exposing homewreckers.
I do agree that some women go about looking for married men, because they can lead a pampered life, they don’t need to do the laundry or take care of his kids or anything like that. They just enjoy a great romantic relationship, wined and dined until they are ready to move on.
AMC, I do agree, some married or committed men sometimes go out of their way to pursue these women, I personally know some and its really disgusting.
I agree with exposing the women, but I also agree with what Liza says about the married or committed men going out of their way to pursue these women. It is digusting and just not right. Particularly if the woman they are chasing who was NOT chasing them take advantage of someone who is in a VERY vulnerable state. I know this because I was one myself. It has completely ruined my views on marriage and trust as well. I don’t know if I can ever trust a man ever again. I feel for everyone in all of these situations. Especially for the person most hurt. The wife or husband of the cheater. I myself could never forget about it if it happened if i were the one cheated on and would be completely devastated.
I have also experienced the heart ache of infidelity. My husband had an affair with a co-worker. Through therapy he discovered why he needed the extra attention. The affair was his problem and had nothing to do with me. We have two beautiful girls and we were a very happy family. Our friends always commented on how I treated him like a king. It has been two years of ups and downs but I can truly say I have forgiven my husband and enjoying my marriage. I was a drama queen for so long but my husband did everything in his power to keep our marriage together. I have learned alot about myself and life in general. I hope someday I can help others through my experience.
If he had been happily married it wouldn’t have happened, there must have been issues. I understand that this kind of betrayal is devastating, but I don’t think blaming or naming the other woman is very constructive. He is the one who broke your trust, don’t let him rob you of your dignity as well. She may be all the things you say, but you need to direct your anger at your husband, he made the wrong choices.
Indeed sometimes it’s something that is missing from the marriage, but it’s something that should be missing, like having a few partners, some men seem to get excited about having various women and they seek to fill that fantasy, there is so much and no more a woman can do.
Reading these poor women’s comments is like watching Jerry Springer. The women just don’t get that the man is at least 50% responsible, alot of the OW have no idea a man is married, an OW can’t just pluck an innocent man out of the air, it takes two, etc,etc,etc. They hear none of it. They want to scream their pain to the world, ignoring the hurt that is going on with their kids, and they want to pull hair and scratch. They will not listen to the truth, there is only their truth. And alot of the time their husband is sitting there smirking at them.
Well said Molly, I agree with you. As I sad before this kind of betrayal must be devastating but it would be more productive for these women to try to understand why it happened. It may be that the relationship is over, but if it is surely it is better to deal with it with dignity and to enable both parents to give the children the support and reassurance that they need.
I am a woman who unknowingly had an affair with a married man, and I feel sick to my stomack for what I put this poor woman through. What makes it worse is that I wasn’t the only one. This OTHER WOMAN, Sargent Linda Crosby, knew all about his family. She is in the Army right now, stationed in Hohenfels, Germany. She purposely goes after married men, thinking she has more to offer than the wife. She is a pathetic 40+ woman that throws herself at anyone who shows her any type of attention. How desperate that I actually feel sorry for her.
OK You guys I am the other woman…I knew he was married and miserable. It was mutual but he pursued me. He has since gone through a divorce and sees his kids regularly. She showed her true colors thru the divorce even using her children to no end. I do not believe that you can take a happy man away from his family. He chose to leave. I also have chosen to leave him recently, even though I did love him…i believe he needed time between his marriage. I agree that married men are off limits but sometimes the men just stay because of the children and are very miserable and unhappy. Nobody should live this short life like that. It’s all about love…hopefully not just sex.
Which other woman are you? Which comment are you referring?
I agree with Calypso. I would blame my husband much more than the “other woman” if he had an affair. To blame the woman…although she might have instigated it…is just not putting the blame where it really lies–your husband.
It is your husband who has broken his promises and cheated on you. The blame is his, don’t waste time on the other woman.
I wonder if anyone has posted “homewrecker” announcements in the classified ads of large cities or alternative newspapers?
I suppose the homewrecker may have no recourse against such an act, but at what point might there be a homewrecker with enough money to go to court over damages?
Has a homewrecker ever tried to silence the offended party in court?
I have never seen any ads like that so far… once I saw a Mercedes Benz sold for $500. It was a 90,000 dollar car, but the widow was executing her late husband’s wishes, to sell the car and give the money to his lover. And she did.
I can see a new magazine in the future.
“Cheating Times”: Catharsis and healing for the heart broken.
Has a nice ring, don’t you think?
BerlinLife, you crack me up, there goes sweet revenge.The widow should have sold it to her new lover, so she can ride in it.
It sounds like the widow was already aware of the lover.
Remember, there are many different arrangements within marriages. The deceased may have been seeing a lover with his wife’s approval.
Wow, some cultures are really interesting. They should not be regarded as less than any other culture though.
I am the other woman (not regarding these people mentioned) I do have enough money to go to court and did and won!! I even hit her when she came at me from a dark alley (stalker). In the end I even took her new car to drive. It is not the other woman’s fault…it is the husband!! She made a fool out of herself in front of the children.
Bitch please. Why do all you stupid women blame the other woman for your husbands wandering weiner? What about him? May be you should stop being such a lazy bitch and take care of business. You ignorant braods make such asses of yourselves blaoming the woman 100%. He needs to be exposed just as much ALSO you stupid bitch! God O hate women who just balme the women,thats so annoying!
get a clue and be pissed off at the man who had the loyalty to you,bimbos!!
I just bet that there are happily married men who still stray. These are the same personalities that might go sky diving, as well.
The thrill is the draw, not the particular woman, in some cases.
I wouldn’t call her a homewrecker as it takes two persons to have a relationship. If one side does not reciprocate the action shown by the other, then a relationship won’t have a chance to develop. In this case, both of them are responsible to break the so called happy family that the man has.
Wives stop blaming the other women. Your husband made a vow to God to be faithful to you. So, why all the HATE for the other woman. I wish that at least one REAL wife would tell the truth about their marriage. Each one of these sad stories begin with we were so happy. Bull, I do not believe that everyone was so happy. An older woman once told me that what you will not do another women will. She also said that as women we forget the things we used to do to keep him.
Really, can I get one person to be honest since we are all using fake names except for the person posting the other women real names.
Another thing, WIVES, stop confronting the other women. What is the point especially if you are going to stay with the man. You will be left with the image of her screwing your man, now you can put a face with it.
I guess I am so emotional about this subject because I know a wife that has posted a tear-drop story on this site. People are believing her lies. It is always two sides of the story, HER SIDE AND THE TRUTH.
I wish one person could be honest
Sasha,
You must know that you are a homewrecker. Didn’t I see that post under another title on this site? Really, can one homewrecker be honest since we are all using fake names except for the person posting the other women real names?
Why would a home wrecker be afraid to use her own name I wonder? Could it be because she is fake? Ladies, what do you think about people like Sasha who seems to think that what she and others like her has done is fine? Sit in church on the front row every Sunday morning and shakes her head and clap her hands then go home to sleep with someone else’s husband? Homewrecker or saint? You make the call!
Sasha, what do you think you are if not a homewrecker? Oh, what two sides of the story would a homewrecker want to tell? Are then any wives on this post who thinks that the homewreckers should even have the time for us to listen to their stories? And what would the homewreckers have to be emotional about except being “outed” and found out that they are more than the church ladies they pretend? I wonder why the homewreckers are not using their real names, lol? Or should we ask?
Oh Lea, why do we need to take care of our husbands when they have women like you to do it? I like the fact that you all are being hyper bitches to take care of his needs. That is what you women are for, being there when we don’t want to be but still having him around to do his other duties like take care of his family.
Well, you don’t need a degree to do that…it only takes a little brains to know which position to lie in until he dumps his trash in the compactor. Loving it!
Oh yea Sasha, I have the actual stories from the other woman in my situation…would you like me to email them to you privately so that you can get a feel for her desperation? I don’t mind sharing it with you and you with someone else and them with someone else and on and on…she don’t mean anything to me anyway.
It was rather cute to read too!
I just would like to say I would of never thought there would be people who want to be homewreckers. And I never thought people could look you in the eye and lie to you.
And until a year ago I beilieved in that. I was done wrong and now I find myself looking into someones eyes and lying to their heart and going around and ruining someones life.
Life has taught me a few things, cant say whether its good or bad. Time will tell. Hate me all, I don’t care. I was burned and wanna burn back.
A girl named Melanie, lives in Defiance, Ohio. Works crap part time jobs, lives with her mother and lives off her disabled sisters social security checks to buy beer and drugs. She went after my husband and even asked him to get full custody (even though he never could have) of our son and run away to California. She expected him to cut me out of his life and live as if I didn’t exist. Luckily, my husband came to his senses and we are still HAPPILY married like we always were. Things were really hard. But We learned from it and are closer and stronger.
EVERY MARRIAGE HAS PROBLEMS, UPS AND DOWNS. BUT IT IS WRONG FOR WOMEN TO PRAY OPEN WEAK MEN. ESPECIAY WEAK MARRIED MEN. IT IS NOT YOUR JOB OR DUTY TO SAVE SOMEONE FROM BEING UPHAPPY. ESPECIALLY IF THEY ARE MARIED. IF YOU MEET A MARRIED MAN AND HE IS IN A VULNERABLE SITUATION YOU GETTING HIM TO THINK ABOUT LEAVING HIS WIFE ISN’T GOING TO MAKE HIS OR ANYONE’S SITUATION ANY BETTER. IT WILL ONLY HURT MORE PEOPLE AND CAUSE MORE PAIN.
Absolutely it is 50 percent of the Married Man’s fault for cheating. In my case after being married 29 years and enduring a depressed/bipolar husband with addictions then to find out in one of his manic phases he began an affair with a scum bag married woman that he works with. He finally came down back to his deprerssion phase and realized what he did, broke off the relationship after 8 months and we have been working out our problems through marriage ounseling. The SCUM BAG Bitch, WHORE still won’t leave us alone! After 8 months of them not having any contact, she calls me and says I gave my husband an STD: TRICH. That she is being treated for it and even tells her doctors name! I tell her thanks and then ask her if there is anything else she ever needs to speak w/ me or my man about. She says no, it is over. Then I tell her to never ever call/contact him ever again, he did as well, or we will file charges for harrassment. We got checked for STD’s together, all negative thank god. The Health Department contacted her DR and they say they never treated her for anything like that! Then low and behold, 2 months later, the WHORE/SCUM has the nerve to pass him a letter at work saying Happy Birthday I hope you are Happy. I know where my place is now, I know what people think of me, it was good while it lasted and please keep this between you and me. What nerve of this WHORE! WEll, we called the State Police. They called her and warned her:IF SHE ATTEMPTS ANY WAY TO CONTACT MY HUSBAND WE WILL HAVE HER ARRESTED. If the WHORE has any common sense and morals she will heed that warning and let my husband and me alone. So sad, her husband has told me he loves her, he is very ill with heart trouble and can’t work and that is why she cheats on him. This WHORE is such a LOW LIFE..that is why I hold her the BLAME mostly and not my husband. WOMEN LIKE THAT WILL GET THEIRS….maybe not on earth but they will get what is coming to them for their disgusting ways. PB tried to be a homewrecker and it didn’t work…really would a man w/ lots of material things/no mortgage/bills, great forgiving honest woman there for him ever leave for a SCUM BAG WHORE?
sally,
you are absolutely right and for the other person to not think they had some responsibility in the situation is ridiculous. You made an interesting point, the SCUM BAG bitches and whores won’t stop. All of the whores are low lives but they think they are not and finds every excuse possible to make it right for them. Makes you just wonder what kind of upbringing they had. The cute part of the entire thing is that they actually believed what the man told them and are hanging on to that because they don’t want to admit they were used. It brings back the posting of the man who told his “whore” his wife was dead and she believed it. I am with you, they are low lives whores and bitches but the does not make it right for him to cheat either. Yea, GE (brings good things to life) tried to be a home wrecker and is still waiting for the divorce papers to be served as her victory (good luck) but like you said, SCUM BAG WHORES.
I will never understand how woman can “steal” a person with free will? How they can “wreck” a solid relationship. Women say oh she knew this and she knew that…um hello isn’t your man in this relationship? he knows all of that and is supposed to be committed to it. I wouldn’t even waste my time on the “other woman” whether she knew of not. She owes me nothing…he owes me everything.
I’m not saying it’s NOT a shitty cause on the womens part if she knows he’s married but most women ar hell bent on really focusing the anger on her.Lets see a ENTIRE post about what a scum bag he is TOO!!
I wouldn’t waste an ouch of energy on either one ,hunting them down or bother flaoming them in public,that just shows your an emotinal mess and taking their sick,selfish behavior way to personally. I truly believe they just deserve eachother and it would be a blessing from above to me to see what scum he is and move on,after all he commited to me and someone who goes around dating married men for whatever twisted need is not a balanced whole person.
and you women on here bragging about dating married men are sick and the wives who take the cheating husbands back,excusing their behavior but continue to flame the homewrecker are acting just as ignorant.
and ladies it’s not any of your jobs to decide what the other woman deserves,grow up,and NO this doesn’t mean I’m a homewrecker. I’ve been married for 23 years and NEVER dated married man,just seeing this with some clear logic!
Tara, I agree with much of what you said, however if a woman (or a man for that matter) decides to take a cheating spouse back, that is their business. It is up to them how they attempt to resolve their problems.
I agree with most of what Tara had to say, but perhaps not with the way she said some of it. If a spouse has cheated forget the other woman (or man) your issue is with the spouse who cheated on you, focus on him.
There are far too many women out there who are predators for other women’s husbands. They see a financial lifestyle they would like to have and they go after it, without regard to the damage they are doing to the man’s family. There is a nurse in LA named Margaret Ecker who preys on men over the internet. She emails men she has known on the job or in the neighborhood, tries to ingratiate herself in the man’s life, becomes dependent on them, tries to make the man feel obliged to help her with whatever drama she’s living at the moment. The men get sucked in for a time via email. I don’t know of any man who actually had a physical affair with the woman, but she clearly has that in mind when she sets out to get them away from their families. She’s very intrusive and persistent. She is my definition of a home wrecker. Or maybe I should say wanna be home wrecker.
Are you talking about this woman Kathy?
Margaret Ecker, MS, PNP, RN, a clinical nurse specialist for UCLA Children’s Hospital, was among the second UCLA group, which included other nurses, specialists in infectious diseases, rape crisis counselors, and family medicine residents. Soon after arriving home from her week in Albania, she shared her thoughts on the trip.
First of all your way out of line for just posting somenes name for the hell of it. How do we know who you really are or why your posting it.
AGAIN..YES theres no dought it’s a crappy thing to do,but like I said women don’t seem to understand if you have a solid loving relationship with a stable sincere man he’ll tell her no and to back off and or he will give her NO impications of interest what so ever.Did you ever have a guy who may have liked you,you knew it and you gave him no chemistry back? Eventually he backed off. Body language and that unspoken message of I’m taken is powerful. You’re stable solid relationship can’t be wrecked by the most deviant homewrecker if you have a loyal sincere husband. If any crazy woman stalking your family or not taking no for an answer ,common sense should set in that your dealing with someone very unstable and you would get a order of protection against them. I wouldn’t consider them a threat to stealing your husband away just annoying and dangerous!!
Kathy,why would these men “Get sucked in” STOP making excuses for them. It takes to. How many times does one have to say this before you get it? AGAIN ,A loyal husband would say STOP EMAILING ME PLEASE,I HAVE A FAMILY!!” and block her,and the wife wouldn’t have to worry.
Women should never have to worry if they have loyal healthy reationships.
I know a 29 year old tramp named KS from Fairfax, VA who likes to target married men. She has brought 2 of them so far to social functions within our group. She didn’t tell us they were married.. I found out by accident. She likes to go to the Crystal City Restaurant (strip club) in Arlington, VA and hunt for older married men. She also likes to go to the Firehouse Grill in Fairfax for open mic night. She graduated from George Mason University and works for the government. She drives a jeep. Ladies beware, this tramp is out to seduce your husbands!
Yeah Hikingit thanks for the warning we’ll all be especially careful since most of us will probably never meet her or live anywere near her you weirdo!
Tara
I have enjoyed reading your comments.
I understand that the wives on this site are hurt and angry. It is amazing that many of them forgot the “dirt” they have done. Blaming the other woman is not going to change the fact the their husbands cheated and lied to them. My husband cheated on me and YES I was curious about the lady, but I did not blame or trash her. It was my husband that cheated; I was not married to her. My husband and I decided to get a divorce.
What is the point of posting someone’s name on this site? It is immature and in some case wrong information. The wives are not posting their husband’s names, WHY? They are protecting their husbands, the one that promised to be faithful, but trashing the one who owes them nothing. If the wives are bold enough to post the other woman’s name then post you and your husband’s name.
You’re a wise woman “moveontrick”,and thats exactly what women should say to their husbands infidelity
You women here taking up for the home wreckers must be home wreckers yourselves. You sound petty and you sound guilty. I think these women need to be exposed. They don’t care who they hurt or how many families they tear apart. I find it despicable that creatures out there are preying on families. not all men who cheat are unhappily married or don’t have a good family relationship. Notice how very few men leave their wives for these home wrecking women. I find women who pursue married men to be absolute trash.
This isn’t all about sex. Some homewreckers don’t actually get that far. THey just try to flatter and cajole married men into being interested in them. I agree with the post that said very few married men leave their wife for the other woman, sex or not. Most of them are perfectly happy being married. There’s no accounting for what men do sometimes. But blaming the wife for the cheating is a low blow and ridiculous. Let’s blame the man and the woman who knows he’s married and sets out to get him. There’s no excuse for that at all.
If you have discovered that your partner or husband is cheating on you, it is devastating, even if you had your suspicions. As you reel from the discovery and no doubt the ensuing revelations, it can be difficult to know whether you should be mad at him, The Other Woman, or both.
If you’ve been cheated on, he has willfully done it. He is not a child lacking control of himself and I doubt that anybody held a gun to his head and told him to take his penis out. The easy option when a man is caught out cheating is for him to blame the other woman, avoid responsibility, and seem like he has been led by a temptress. I don’t doubt that things about her were very tempting but to believe that it’s all down to her charms absolves him of any responsibility and if he has none, what is to stop him from doing it again? He is making himself sound like a spineless, gormless, idiotic, irresponsible twit with no control over himself. The longer he has systematically lied to you and kept up his cheating façade is the more he has deceived you, the more comfortable he was with it, and the bigger a chance he took. He has been having his cake and eating it.
It’s him you’re married/committed to, hence he is the person that owes you the biggest explanation and the only person that can commit to resolving the situation should you decide to keep his cheating ass.
The Other Woman thinks that it’s OK to ‘screw someone else’s husband’ because she believes in the promise of whatever he has offered. It’s not even that she thinks that what she’s doing is ‘OK’ per se, it’s just that time has allowed her to rationalize the situation, his actions, and her actions. Whilst there are women out there that make it their life’s pursuit to be with attached men, I think most of the women allow themselves to believe the hype as it suits their own esteem values.
However, whilst I can appreciate that people get sucked into situations, the reality is that if a woman is sleeping with someone else’s husband, at that time, she is not respecting marriage. It may not be that she has no respect for marriage itself, as she may want a wedding herself, but she doesn’t have any respect for YOUR marriage.
But is there ever a time to confront The Other Woman or trash her name across town or the net?
If the other woman is someone you know, or heaven forbid, related to you, then of course you should confront them. It’s not because he is any less responsible but because she has broken and abused your trust. Whilst the temptation is to get medieval on her ass, try to avoid doing anything illegal or anything that diminishes your dignity. She really just isn’t worth it.
And if you don’t know her? I don’t think that there is much to be achieved by confronting her as you are 1) going on hearsay from him, 2) she has her own version of events that she wants to believe in and 3) you are likely to look like the woman that doesn’t want to acknowledge the wrong that her partner/husband has done so you’re blaming her instead.
The Other Woman has failed to regard you as a human being with flaws and feelings, just like her, and she does this because this is her coping mechanism that distances herself from the reality of his situation.
The only reason why you should confront The Other Woman (other than in the situation where you know her personally) is if you actually give a damn what she thinks, and, confronting her gives her far more power than she deserves or needs. She hasn’t abused your trust – she’s just been screwing your man…
At this point you either need to focus on deciding if you relationship is worth saving or how best to turf his arse out. There is no benefit to having a ‘showdown’ because you will only feel good and righteous temporarily, and ultimately, are either one of them worth it?
Well, Tara, you certainly identified that homewrecker for all to see. Why did you do that if you don’t approve of outing women who go after married men?
It’s not about wives not recognizing the part their husbands played, Tara. It’s about low life women who know a man is married and still go after him. It’s about woman having no respect for other women, for thinking that if they see something they want, even if it’s someone else’s husband, they don’t hesitate to swoop in and try to take it away. Margaret Ecker is that kind of woman repeatedly. So don’t be taking up for people you dont’ know for reasons that make no sense to those who have been harmed by this hateful, despicable piece of crap woman.
Alice and Carolyn you’re clueless.You just don’t get it! In no way is anyone sticking up for the homewreckers actions but to excuse yourself from any marriage problems and say men who cheat don’t have marriage problems makes me realize your just so cluless and indenial there’s nothing left to say to you. BTW I’ve been married to the same man for 23 years.Never been a homewrecker nor do I condone their actions. I just know were one should look for the problem and thats in their own marriage.
As much scum as she is she owes you nothing HE owes you EVERTHING so is she’s absolute trash what does that make him? I still haven’t heart it said what he is in lue of that. You just can’t bring yourself away from the shifting the blame off her and onto the person who had the loyalty to you can you?
Carolyn,THEY don’t hold guns to these guys heads they VERY WILLINGLY cheat and take the bait. For the love of god please have some intelligence and stop making excuses for these cheating men and YES thats exactly what you’re doing when you blame the other party and not him!!You have no idea how stupid you make yourself sound.
Women come so far and have buisness’s amazing careers but still to this day they act like Jerry Springer guests when it comes to this.
These men who make the choice to cheat just sit back and laugh when their stupid wives excuse them and blame the woman,and get away with it again as a result! Come on ladies turn the light bulb on!!!
Go back up and read my post dated May26th
I’ve been a marriage counselor for 15 years and I see this all the time. It’s human nature for people to want to blame outside parties and not their spouse so they don’t have to look at their part in the problem and if the man has a sex addiction and is acting out out of that they will fight tooth and nail before they see him as the party who as you say “owes you everything”.
It never has anything to do with the outside party and everything to do with the wife and her husband,her marriage and the kind of man she has chosen to spend her life with. This is the most painful part for the wife. The sooner she takes the anger off the other women or vice versa the quicker the healing and growth begins.
I recently had a woman come to me whose husband had been caught with a prostitute in their home.He claimed it was the first time he had been with her and she continued to blame the prostitute for 30 years of marriage problems and continued to call her husband a “really nice guy” and her a whore.
I think that was the most brazen I had ever been with any client giving them a harsh reality check very fast but her level of denial was so heavy it was the right amount of pressure to apply for the emotional wound to be looked at.We all know the truth it just takes awhile to get there,and hopefully in the mean time one does not act irrational to the point of creating problems for everyone else.
Goodle Stephanie Lazarus,it’s an interesting story about a woman a 25 year veteran detective on the LAPD who was charged with the murder of her ex boyfriends new wife 23 years ago,thanks to reopening a cold case her saliva from bite marks all over the victims body in a brutal crime scene and matched to her DNA.
In this case and reading the facts it would seem she was never really playing with a full deck and fooled many people as a cop for years HOWEVER I’ve seen many stable people come unraveled when it comes to love and relationships.
Shari, thou protest too much and too bitterly. You sound like a rejected home wrecker. I don’t see Carolyn making any comment about being cheated on by her husband. She’s just commenting on women who try to break up other women’s marriages. I don’t see anyone on this board taking up for cheating spouses. The home wrecker women are deserving of criticism, as well. They should be outed.
Dr. Loyd
Thank you. I am glad that someone finally seeing clearly. A marriage is a relationship. If you have problems in any relationship they need to be dealt with as soon as possible. As women we can tell our friends what is bothering us and what needs to be done to fix it. Some of us just do not do this with our men.
Have you notice that on all these blogs that the wives never name their husbands and damn the “other woman” to hell? It is clear that most of them will never deal with the problems within their marriage. They will just take the cheating husband back once he learns to cover his tracks better. I have learned that the man will not stop cheating if the wife agrees to turn a blind eye to his cheating and lies. I read a post where a woman said that she did not care if her husband cheated as long as he took care of his family. Many people talk about the self respect and low self esteem of the other woman, “what about the wife”. I have read comments like “he will come back when he is done”. The next statement has been that the other woman is destroying my family.
The husband and wife are destroying the family. Children are very perceptive to marital problems. If one of the spouses is not happy then the children see this on a daily basis. Believe me it is not the other woman’s fault. She did not create the problem’s within the marriage.The other woman is not destroying families; the unresolved problems are in the marriage are doing it. Let me correct part of a statement. Some other women do not set out to destroy families or marriages.
I do not feel that all marriages should end because of cheating. I do feel that the issues that lead up to a spouse cheating should be dealt handled.
I know a guy that cheats on his wife and his wife has cheated on him. He says that he loves his wife. He says that the problems have ballooned while staying in the marriage. So I asked him, why does he cheat. He says because he was not getting what he needed from his wife after talking to her about what he needed to make the marriage work. I will tell you that his cheating was mainly emotional that eventually turned physical. He says that he is still in the marriage because she told him that she did not want to end the marriage and would turn her head to his cheating because she knows he will stop. She also said that as long as he still paid the bills they would stay married. So, he is still cheating just like other spouses and has learned to cover his tracks. Yes, his wife does care because she constantly argues with him,stalks him, and contacts the other woman. Remember,this is the short version!
Is the other woman still to blame or the people in the marriage? I do not know the other woman, but I know this is not all her fault. For one he has said that this is not her fault because he wants her to stay. He knows his own actions.
My advice to him was to handle the issues that was destroying their marriage. If he sees where he has done all he could then at that point he needed to make a decision. I told him that cheating was unacceptable behavior and to get help.
The actions of this married couple has hurt many people and both of them are miserable together.
Kathy, I guess you don’t read the posts that well. I’ve been married to the same man for 23 years. No sense in going on here you just don’t get it.
Amazing insight Dr Loyd,tobad these women spend their time directing their anger at the wrong party
So, Shari, if you’re so happily married and aren’t a homewrecker wannabe, why are you on this site taking up for homewreckers and attacking the wives? This is a strange site for a happily married woman to be lurking, don’t you think? Are you sure you aren’t a rejected wannabe homewrecker? Sounds like to lost out to the wife. And Dr. Lloyd? Give me a break. What a load of crap. Sounds as though Dr. Lloyd may have graduated from 6th grade.
Dr Lloyd, thanks, a bit of much needed common sense! It is a shame that some people are so incapable of being objective about this. The other woman (or man) has nothing to be proud of, but it is the cheating spouse who has betrayed their partner. The betrayed partner needs to look within the marriage for answers rather than focussing on the other person.
DOCTOR Lloyd? What a joke? Exactly what kind of DOCTOR is this fool? She writes like a high school drop out. She also writes like the other woman trying to defend her own behavior. That has to be the most transparent, most ridiculous think I’ve ever read in my life. She needs to see a psychiatrist asap.
I think Dr Lloyd made some sensible observations. Carolyn you don’t have to agree but please don’t fling insults around, it is unnecessary and offensive.
Carolyn, Dr Lloyd just offered some practical common sense advice. People have a right to express their oppinion, even if you don’t like it! Insults and name calling really don’t help the discussion.
It’s hard to believe that “Dr. Lloyd” is a professional in any field, given her ridicule and blame of the betrayed spouse. I’m sure all of you who are yourselves homewreckers like to hear – or wrote yourselves – “Dr. Lloyd’s” ridiculous comments. My husband was the recipient of a predator, a woman who set out to get him, to wreck our marriage. There was no sex. There was no emotional intimacy. There were only some emails, but it is perfectly clear that this woman deliberately targeted my husband to poach. It annoys me when frauds like “Dr. Lloyd” come along and defend these low lifes who set out to wreck marriages for the fun of it.
LMAO Look at how ornery and pissed off poor Carolyn is,what a bitter,hateful mean spirited battle ax who insults anyone who she can lash her pain and misery out on. I can see why her husband goes else were.There’s some good words on her and instead of having an open mind and seeing the glass half full she see’s people taking sides and feels a need to lash out.I bet Carolyn finds a way to blame someone for all her problems and personal issues in life. You couldn’t be kind,reach out to her and try to give her some encouragement even if you wanted to,because you can’t grab a porcupine.If she’s as nasty on the outside as she is on the inside ,YUP he goes someplace else for sex FORSURE!
Carolyn your husband is a smart man for having gone else were and if he’s smart he’ll stay away.Now stew in that you bitter,spiteful poisonous hag.
Now watch her come back spewing her same old predictable insults and rhetoric!LOL
No one is defending an affair with a married man, it is wrong and can not be defended, but it takes two for anything to happen. From what you say your husband did nothing wrong, so I assume it didn’t cause any problems in your marriage. I find it hard to understand why you are so angry. Maybe she was a predator as you say, but she will not get anywhere unless the man responds and at that point your issue is with him not her. Men have free will just as women do, and if they stray (whatever the temptation) they have only themselves to blame. Why bother to be angry with this woman, she is not worth it, and if she is the type of person you think she is she will not care what you think. What I am trying to say is that your anger is unproductive because it is only hurting you.
Forget Dr Lloyds qualifications, it is irrelevent, it is not necessary to have qualifications to poseess common sense or to offer good advice. If you don’t like the advice you don’t have to take it, it’s your loss.
Men are nre not weak and wives have a lot more power than they’d care to admit.
If you feel like confronting someone, do it and avoid falling for all of the little suggestions that leave you standing mute, only to see the other woman living it up on money that should be sequestered by your own household.
Fight back instead of calling the other woman names, and make demands on the husband to change his behavior BEFORE you start trying to patch things up.
I admit it annoys me to see women take up for women who try to poach other women’s husbands. And it annoys me when people – most likely the very women who try to poach other women’s husbands – try to blame the wife. I’m not angry with this stupid woman. She’s just a scam artist and a poor one at that. I haven’t ‘outed’ her. It’s these women who go around trying to wreck marriages and then blame the poor wife that irritate me. Common decency is not too much to ask.
Oh shit, who should care anymore..if the asshole wants to cheat he is going to cheat. You can have a failed proof marriage and the ass will continue to treat because they are again…dogs. If a man smell a piece he will hunt it until he gets it no matter how much he is getting at home. The excuses that he is not getting what HE wants is home is just that, an excuse. The other woman is just there to be the fill in and that is what she is..so she gets what she deserves…SGE and TUB. Know your role and deal with it and stop crying like the bitches you are. If VEJ wants to cheat with you then to hell with him, let him. It is your backs that you are lying on and I could care less. Help the wives out, that is our job as women right..to help each other. I say go for it, if he is giving you what you want then take it cause I would too. The difference is if I know he’s married, he won’t have a chance in hell at getting to me because I love me and will never allow a man to knowingly use me. I’m only going to be the other woman for my husband not someone else’s.
Sage Mother that was wise advice. You are right men are not weak, They have to take responsibility for their actions.
Why even give it that much power Carolyn?Don’t waste your time with all that anger or giving her a second thought.Move forward and make your life better. Living well is the best revenge.From the recent posts I don’t see any sticking up for the act of dating a married man at all just pushing you in a better direction and frame of mind,take it as a positive thing…hugs
I read ALL these posts and while i find homewreckers actions disgusting and disresepectful I’m in aw at how the men get off scott free and get less of the blame when it should be more.
Why do we do that as women? Please don’t attack me.LOL I’m just realy asking a since question on the board here.It seems noone ever really gives a concrete reason not has it here it just goes off into a tangent of a spew of anger and insults.
BTW My heart goes out to the ladies who are going through or have gone through rough times. Love stinks sometimes!
I don’t understand why some women don’t make their man face the blame for his actions. I can only assume that they are either scared of losing him or they think he is too weak to cope with temptation. What strikes me most is how unhappy all concerned must be in these relationships where there is so much anger and bitterness.
I feel for anyone who has been let down and betrayed in this way, and I think it is terribly sad that some people have been hurt so badly that they seem unable to move on.
Kernow,
Many women are dependent on their husbands, either financially or emotionally. Women still make less money than men and, if the woman is over a certain age, she may not feel confident that she will find another permanent relationship.
These factors are powerful influences over how a woman reacts to a husband’s infidelity.
SageMother, none of those are good enough reasons to be condemned to a life of misery and anger by staying with a man who has no respect for them. Of course change is frightening, but it is possible to start again and wome usually find that they are much stronger and happier on their own. We should be empowering women, nobody should be expected to put up with that sort of treatment.
Wow, beautifly said Deltic and this is something we should all encourage other women to do.Thats all we can do is encourage and support.
I’m not big on negative and name calling.I find it very destructive and nobody feels better in the end even the name callers so with that being said please accept my apology Carolyn for stirring up any anger that was dwelling within you. I’m not against you,only encouraging you to be in the best place you can be. Thats all.
Sage Mother women are not weak creatures who have to put up with a cheating spouse becouse of emotional dependence or lack of confidence. Even financial vulnerability can be overcome. It is terrible that women feel so week that they see staying and putting up with it as the only option.
Of course some couples agree to stay together to try to rebuild a relationship, that is completly different, but no women should feel trapped in a marriage to a cheat.
This place is overrun, clearly, with rejected home wrecker wannabes. Read my posts. My husband did not cheat on me. I didn’t out another woman as a home wrecker. I am simply saying that women who go after married men are losers. What surprises me is that as soon as the first poster named a home wrecker a crowd of women attacked her as a failed wife. As a woman who grew up with women’s lib and became a professional, it does irritate me that there are women out there still who think it cute to wreck marriages and then blame the wife. And I must say that the ferocity with which they attack the wives is stunning to me as a woman. These are clearly not first rate women.
I would agree with you that women who do that are losers. Where I disagree is that I don’t see anyoune attacking the wives, as women we should be empowering them to make it clear to their husbands that they will not tolerate lies and cheating.
Justontime is right, I don’t think any of us are attacking the wives or supporting women who have affairs with married men.
I think that the women who go after married men unfortunately probably do it for a variety of reasons usually based on their past experiences. I think it’s often not just an attraction to the individual that makes them “step out of the box.”
This may be a naive question, but do women really go after married men or do things ‘just happen’. I’m not saying it is ok either way, it just seems a very off thing to do to complicate your life and cheapen yourself by going after a married man.
sorry I meant odd not off.
I don’t know the answer to that question. deltic. I just know that there are women our there who try to poach other women’s husbands and have no guilt about it. It’s hard to believe that things ‘just happen’ when a woman knows a man is married and still pursues him. I have known women who have been cheated on and if they elect to try to redeem their marriage what’s the point of outing the husband on a public forum? Every single one of my friends in that situation have, indeed, been very hard on the husbands for their infidelity. The other woman, on the other hand, may well be off after another married man. That ought to be outed in my opinion, whether on the web or just locally among friends and family. These aren’t innocent women. They need to face the some consequences.
I’m not so sure about outing people men or women, why waste energy on them. I believe that you reap what you sew, and in the long term life has a way of catching up with prople who live selfishly with no respect for others.
I agree Justontime, in the end, what goes around comes around. The sad thing is that some people who have been wronged are so hurt and damaged by what has happened, that they become consumed with bitterness and it wrecks their lives too. I would always tell people to take care of themselves rather than wasting energy on anger against the person the spouse cheated with.
Couldn’t have said it better myself Deltic and JOT.It’s been what I’ve been trying to get across from the beginning. In the heat of anger people alwasy feel they need to take care of what karma does naturally. Living well is actually the best revenge.
Yes living well is the best revenge. Sadly I have seen people I care about, so consumed with hurt and anger because of betrayal that it has ruined their lives. It is very sad.
I think we should all hang on to that phrase, ‘living well is the best revenge’. It is true in all sorts of other situations too.
Looks like the scorned women finally stopped foaming at the mouth.
Ahhhh, I totally agree. Living well is the best way to live and not be hinged up on all the anger because of the betrayal. Ahhh, let it go ladies and the likes of people like Tara and others won’t feel so big since we know they are not lol.
LOL OMG T you’re fuggin hysterical.
Tara, you have to be. I have fun reading all of this stuff from these crazy women who are so happy to be screwed and left. If there are married women or single women with men who are angry because these women are being screwed by their men, don’t be. Learn to take the power away from the hussies cause they are what they are, depositories for those men who just can’t get enough at home. Really Tara, you have those clean up women like Tara who want to be, so why be mad. My husband has a clean up woman and I’m happy for her and him. She gets him when he wants her, he screws her when HE wants, she loves him and she’s stupid enough to think he loves her and them. He lets me read their text messages to him and sees the letters and cards she gives him whining. It’s amazing to think that a wanna be woman can be so stupid.
I say let him fuck her and come home cause when the bastard croak and takes his last breath, we will be set for the better part of our life and then we can move on and get us a real man who wants to be home until his stupid ass fucks up lie the previous one, lol. That is the way I see life with a man cause they are just that, men. Shit, let the Taras and her likes be the fuck lady for us. Save your stuff for the man that really wants you and not just your pussy like they want from Tara and the other bitches on this site…lol. Tara, you go girl! My husband loves to fuck, wanna be one of his. Email me and let me know and if you’re in our state, shit I will introduce you to him. He’s 9″ in length and has a mean tongue just like you like it, lol. Shit, I will give you a monthly stipend too cause I know you’re not getting enough money from him to take care of your needs financially, right?
Wow T,what an inspiration, You’re such a classy lady. NO NO NO ,for 400th time I’m NOT a homewrecker nor would I EVER condone the actions of such a selfish act.Do you just like to argue with people that agree with you? I AGREE WITH YOU!! I’m not sure how many times I can possibly say this but I think it just boils down to me hitting a nerve and when people know nothing about you in cyber space they want to assume the worst to continue to spew their anger,but at any rate NO NO NO would I ever intentionally be so disrespectful to another lady. I believe in cause and effect and if you actually read my previous posts the point in all of them is distributing the blame EQUALLY,but that’s been rehashed a 100 times also so I’m over repeating that too. No I don’t want your husband T,GROSS!That’s so tacky, but thanks for thinking of me.
Help me understand this,do you just go around and really offer your husband up or was that in a moment of passion and furry as you sat in your cluttered trailor with Jerry Springer playing in the background,taking long drags off your Marlboro Reds as the smoke passed through your yellow stained teeth, taking the last swig off your seventh can of diet coke and typing away behind your computer screen trying to get the words onto the screen,as little beads of sweat rolled down your over sized cheeks?
Never mind you don’t need to answer that. At any rate I’m a little concerned about your nonchalant attitude about giving your husband away like this T. You’re thinking is that of a ill woman . You deserve better T,you really do! This isn’t healthy.I want you do claim your husbands pecker and tongue as your own! Own your power T,come on you can do it!BTW what the hell is a “stipend” You can keep that too.
So for that last time. The act of stealing someones husband is selfish, I do NOT support it,it’s not nice. What else can I say? I agree with the board. Homewerecking is NOT NICE!!Unless I’ve just bumped into a bevy of peeps that like to argue and fight so much they will even do it with people that agree with them then I’m done here.
Tara
Do not waste your time responding to T. She appears to be happy with her cheating husband. If she wants to stay with her cheating husband for insurance money then so be it!
She can not take her power back because she does not have any. She has given it to her husband and the other women. I do not know of any wives that would read the text from their husband’s phone from the other women. Hell, the only men that I know that will show a his woman text from other women are SWINGERS and EX-WOMEN. T ’s husband has not allowed her to read letters or cards from his lovers. What man would? T has been going through her husband’s things and found them, LOL! This means that he is still cheating and she accepts it.
Tara, what I do not understand is why does she keep posting her stupidity and attacking other women on this site? T appears to be angry with everyone, except herself and husband.
I believe T is at home crying and begging her husband to be with her even though she has said in many post she will pay a woman to be with her husband and she does not care what he does. Lies!
If she really did not care, T would divorce her cheating husband, stop posting irrational bullshit and move on with her life. She could be with the man that wants her (and her pu__y) and collect his insurance policy “money”.
Check out her other postings on other boards within this site. I have read many story lines on this site and by far T has the most issues.
Seriously though, I wish T the best in life because no one deserves to be cheated on in any relationship. Carrying around that much anger has to be tiring and unhealthy.
Well said Jennifer and very observant. I agree lets hope the best for T and cross are fingers she has an awakening. I can’t imagine passing a husband or boyfriend around like wet rag.
Hi Wives,
I have to tell a story that will sound as silly as the other women are telling here but it may be your opportunity to be as they are…..silly. My husband and I have been away on vacation for the last week as his request to work on our marriage. He had an epiphany as he said. He’s this corporate great making a lot of money driving the fine car and looking nice so the women wanted that. He gave the opportunity to one woman and had been involved as he put it with her for two years.
He knew what he had been doing was wrong but the opportunity presented itself and he like the man he is and others will do took it. It was an opportunity he said for some free “sex” so he could not resist, which is what men can’t do. I sat there in awe listening to what he had to say but he was being honest. I will tell you this story in two phases because it is long and I don’t want to bore you with my writing but your mouth will drop as mine did listening to him.
He said men are born to be hunters and that is what they do even though they know where there first love is and that is at home with their wives. He never had the intent to leave home but didn’t want to be viewed as disrespecting it either. So he took up wiht this girl and she was his fantasy and he lived it for the last two years. I was angry listening but wanted to let him tell his “why” and decide from there as a couple what to do.
This story made sense and I hope it set you free as wives as it did me but you have to be strong willed and want your marriage because we made a decision that I know many of you will think is absolutely stupid but for that other woman, I did not want her to be vindicated as she thought she was and is…little does she know.
Well we have decided that he wanted to live out this fantasy as most husbands do as he said but he did not want to hurt me and never wanted me to find out…that didn’t and does not excuse him from being the ass that he was and is but he’s a keeper. He said men are born to hunt and that Stephanie made herself available to him. He knew he was married with a family but he still took the chance. When he did it once and got away with it, he just continued in spite of how things were going at home. He made up in his mind that things were bad at home to justify what he was doing knowing it was wrong and he was damn right.
He admitted that he got comfortable doing what he was doing and the more Stephanie wanted of him the more turned off he was with her but she made the sex, time, and affection available to him. The nights he slept with her he thought of it being me…sick bastard he was. He was giving her what he wanted and got what he wanted and that is how these affairs keep going. He made sense but I didn’t hear it at the time because of my disgust with him and her. Her knowing as well as he but they both played a role in it.
He told of how she begged him to leave his family and what she would do for him if he did (just like other women do). He says that he got a woman who would not do with or for him that he would not ask his wife to do and Stephanie filled this role. See wives, they have a role but that does not excuse him. he told of the nasty things that he did with her and I got more angry as I heard him but I listened because I agree to, which was the purpose of this time away for the two of us.
He said he gave her fake divorce papers because it was what she asked for thinking that she’d won by having him leave me and men do this he said…surprising but not now that I heard him. He said he helped her get a car and gave money here and there when she asked so that he could keep her near since she would do the things he only dreamed about doing but what he didn’t have for her was the respect that he had for his wife but I said not enough to keep you from cheating.
As I look at the story unfold, I saw a man like many who are doing the very same thing as he and the other women as Stephanie. She thought he’d left his wife and was happy to hear the stories he made up to keep her in bed. Sad but true so I asked him what he wanted to do with our marriage and he said quickly, I am not and have not planned to leave our marriage I just wanted my own spice and had it the last two years.
The story continues…
Well we have decided that he wanted to live out this fantasy as most husbands do as he said but he did not want to hurt me and never wanted me to find out…that didn’t and does not excuse him from being the ass that he was and is but he’s a keeper. He said men are born to hunt and that Stephanie made herself available to him. He knew he was married with a family but he still took the chance. When he did it once and got away with it, he just continued in spite of how things were going at home. He made up in his mind that things were bad at home to justify what he was doing knowing it was wrong and he was damn right.
He admitted that he got comfortable doing what he was doing and the more Stephanie wanted of him the more turned off he was with her but she made the sex, time, and affection available to him. The nights he slept with her he thought of it being me…sick bastard he was. He was giving her what he wanted and got what he wanted and that is how these affairs keep going. He made sense but I didn’t hear it at the time because of my disgust with him and her. Her knowing as well as he but they both played a role in it.
He told of how she begged him to leave his family and what she would do for him if he did (just like other women do). He says that he got a woman who would not do with or for him that he would not ask his wife to do and Stephanie filled this role. See wives, they have a role but that does not excuse him. he told of the nasty things that he did with her and I got more angry as I heard him but I listened because I agree to, which was the purpose of this time away for the two of us.
He said he gave her fake divorce papers because it was what she asked for thinking that she’d won by having him leave me and men do this he said…surprising but not now that I heard him. He said he helped her get a car and gave money here and there when she asked so that he could keep her near since she would do the things he only dreamed about doing but what he didn’t have for her was the respect that he had for his wife but I said not enough to keep you from cheating.
As I look at the story unfold, I saw a man like many who are doing the very same thing as he and the other women as Stephanie. She thought he’d left his wife and was happy to hear the stories he made up to keep her in bed. Sad but true so I asked him what he wanted to do with our marriage and he said quickly, I am not and have not planned to leave our marriage I just wanted my own spice and had it the last two years.
The story continues..
So we now have a plan together for him to continue this affair since he says it’s his fantasy. I have come to the realization that I can’t beat the whores so why not join them. I asked him if was going to continue the affair and he said no but I said do. Yes, I know that sounds crazy but I told him to continue but he would have to be honest about everything and no lies again or our marriage was done. So since the bitch wanted to be the wife, I told him to let her live thinking that she would be and I won’t do the things he wants her to do because I am his wife and deserve more respect than that of a whore especially the one he has been hovering for the last two years.
Wives, here is what I have done and he has agreed and allowed me to do with him…have the affair. So, he says that he would be honest after picking his face up off the floor…psychology wives and the other women are just that. Know that we will not be able to stop the bitches as we can see by this site so I decided to join them. I told him to continue with stephanie but on my terms. He will see her when I say he does and how long and I will do the communicating with her to a degree, when she texts or emails him. He agreed and hence,I have the password to his emails and when he’s home and she texts him, I respond so here is what I did.
She texted him late one night about how much she loves and misses him and that she was so deep in love with him for leaving his wife for her. She told him that she now knows that she would do anything for him because he is her soul mate…lying bitch. I texted her back and told her that I felt the same and how happy she made him. He was lying in bed next to me reading as I texted. He said that was good cause he would never think of stuff like that to tell her…naturally because he only felt the sexual connection with her…she is the other woman.
Wives, I know you are thinking how crazy I am but it was my time to take control of the wheel. I told her that he made the best decision by leaving his wife and the papers proved how much he loved her. She sent a picture back of her naked with her legs open..not something I would do not even for my husband.
I was disgusted and asked him why could he not do better with his choices. His response…well men get what is beneath what they have at home which is why they don’t usually leave. That was a light bulb moment for me even though he was disgusting as she was but this is what she wanted and thought she had.
I have marveled in this because I do now see how desperate you other women can be and will do to keep a married man you think. I saw some of the stuff he had of Stephanie and almost vomited knowing this was a woman who could belittle herself so much just for the sake of a man that does not even love her but what she brings to him for the money and lies he gives her. For a car and a few dollars she degrades, humiliate, and embarrasses herself thinking that the words he says to her are true…and they are not. Well since she had no respect for herself, I decided not to respect her either.
Some of the stuff that she has given him…pictures and videos of herself doing the unthinkable just for a man. Never would I allow any man to do the things to me that she has allowed this man to do to her…my husband. Wives, you don’t know the half of what is going on and we have no control over it or them and leaving won’t fix it so why disrupt our homes..sounds stupid I know.
Well she thought she had a divorced man who left his family but she is still in our lives as the other woman and I’m signing off on it. When I do not want to make love to him, I tell him to call stephanie and do her, he does and I am the one to text her to tell her to meet him…she has no idea. I listen to her call him on his cell and not his home phone crying because he can’t come to her when she wants but she has not put it together that he can’t come because he ’s home with his wife….she has the divorce papers…stupid.
She emails constantly, text all day and night, sends him cards to this address he gave her that was his….his corporate address…she has no idea. So wives the moral of the story is this…he is your husband and whether you leave him or not he is going to be the dog that hunts and will get whether you are with him or not. Play along and be honest with each other and you will be happier although you are angry from the start.
Since we have agree to allow him to continue this affair, things at home are not as tense and ugly as they were three weeks ago. I know when he is with his whore and I regularly communicate with her…see the disgusting woman for who she is…the other woman. That is the story of you guys these days and by the way…he’s sitting here watching me type this story for you all.
I will see you again and update you constantly on stephanie and how she continues to degrade herself as that other woman and to tell you the truth, I’m glad it’s her and not me. She saves me much time arguing now. He seems to be happier knowing that I know of her and so am I…learned a lot from her as the other woman. Wives, think about it. The power is taken away from the whores and bitches if we know about them and I have made the decision to live with that whore as our third leg because I’m going no where Stephanie.
The life of the other women….sad tale to be told but true. Yes, I am going to stay with him and live through her because she was not the first and I know won’t be the last. She is the first that I have communicated with and I wonder how she would react knowing what I know about her…very sad.
Well she is the other woman after all. Wives, this is what they will do for the money they think they are getting, the cars, the time away from you that they are proud of. I know it sounds stupid but it is working for me so do what works for you and yours but don’t let them whores win. Men are going to be the men they are cause they have three legs instead of two and with her there, she’s the fourth so they fit the picture…lol.
I will update you again but we must get some rest and finish out this lovely vacation and unfortunately stephanie won’t get one of these cause that is not in her role…lol
Bye for now
It’s a lovely island too might I say.
Toodles guys!
Okay,well then good luck with all that T but count me out. Take care and have fun!
T, You’re as sick and jaded as your husband. I hope to god you don’t have any daughters to teach them this sick degrading thinking. That would be child abuse if you ask me. I hope to god you get the help you need,if you’re not already menatly ill,which from your posts I’m quessing you maybe,as a wife I’m ashamed to have you represent us.
No Rebecca, I’m not representing you as a wife but myself. What you do is your business and how you do it is your business. I hope you don’t need a role model because if you do then you should turn to the other woman that drove you to this site and let her teach you how to keep your husband. All children are grown and they are doing extremely well on their own supporting themselves.
Sounds like Tara Tulips could be a friend of yours so why don’t you connect with her. By the way, Ms Stephanie or Stevie as she is referred to is doing well in her position so why should I be angry anymore. If she is happy being the other woman then I’m happy now so why should I be mad or sick? I’m actually understanding why she is doing what she is doing and she serves me well and I owe her a pat on the back. So don’t be ashamed for me but proud for you cause I feel pretty good about me and now that I know her a little better based on her emails and letters, I feel good about having her serve my husband’s needs when I don’t want to.
I think I have it great and you should be happy for your husband that he has the one he has so that you don’t have to give it to him. What you don’t want to do with him he is going to her so be proud of having her around no matter how angry you think you are because he’s doing it. He’s with her because you don’t want to do the fantasy things he thinks you should do like bending over the way he wants, using the different toys that he wants, getting on your knees when and how he wants or like Stevie, him watching her be with “another” man while he watches or participates with him. Those are the things that most men fantasize about as he says and he knew his wife would not disrespect herself to do it. So guess what? He found “another” woman to do it and that was Stevie for me and guess what, it’s someone for yours.
Rebecca, be happy that he is not using you like he is using the slut who took on that position although he should not be out with anyone. The bottom line is that he is out with someone so if my husband is sick then what does that make yours? Sicker but be happy it’s not you that he is disrespecting but you wouldn’t let him do that to you, would you? I didn’t and I guess he found someone who would so I’m not angry anymore since he put it that way.
Enjoy your day friend
T
Tara, if you want to be the other woman you just let me know and I can help you serve his needs as well and be okay with it. I don’t have a problem and I think most wives should actually use this site as a recruiting tool instead of a venting tool now. I’m okay with it if you want to be recruited. Stevie loves my husband so much so I’m sure you would too. He is 6′5, athletic build, keeps face shaved (boyish looking), 48 years old, professional and makes a lot of money. He drives a 2009 Mercedes, owns a boat and a cabin in Tennessee that you can visit if you like, an awesome smile and wears a size 14 shoe if that helps you think about it a little harder.
Thanks for keeping me grounded as one of the “other” women on this lovely site because I surely enjoy what you have to say. I would love to count you in though and if you change your mind, please feel free to let me know. I get the emails when you respond so I will be on the look out.
Bye for now,
T
Hi Tara and Rebecca,
I really miss the talk with both of you. How are you guys doing? What else should we wives look for these days in our husbands who cheat? Seems that you both know so much about this topic and I am happy to get the feedback from you. By the way, we are back home enjoying the comfort and time together. Any suggestions for me on how to handle this cheating husband of mine or his “mistress/other woman/bed mate/lover? I really do appreciate the information to help me make better decisions. He has not decided yet to stop seeing Stevie by the way.
T
You’d have to ask a mistress T.I’m not one. I don’t support or condone being with someone elses husband. I think it’s a bad cause to make,not sure about Rebecca but again,good luck with your adventures, be safe and take care.
This has gotten sick beyond cure.
on the subject…here is a story…Adam is a married man with 3 kids. The youngest was only 6 weeks old. Then came along Becky who would pop her legs open every time you pat her on the head. Adam’s wife does not play that so she divorced him. Adam had no where to go so he moved in with Becky (Homewrecker). Now Becky thinks Adam left his wife and lives with her out of love. She even asked HIM to marry HER!!! Personally, I think it is a sign that she thinks that will keep him. Adam cheats on her and lies to her, he stalks the now ex-wife because he never got over her. She has a daughter that sees all of this. I told her she needs to get into a self esteem class but she thinks that she won something of value…when she saved the wife from years of pain because if it wasn’t her it would be someone else…just like he is doing to her now. It has been 6 years, the ex-wife found someone new but Adam still won’t leave her alone. He still claims to love the ex-wife and want to come home and try again…I think it is because he wants what he can’t have. Becky deserves the pain he will cause her in her life. Did I mention the fact that she is closer to his childrens age then his…
What? I haven’t been back to this post in several months. What the heck happened to the topic? Sick is a understatement. Is this woman offering her husband up? She’s as bad and as sick as the homewreckers feeding into all this. There’s some very disturb people on the net.
oh yes mother of two I am offering him up. He is already up in them so why not? If they want him heck they can have him. Stephanie is having a great time with him so can Tara Tulips, Rebecca and whoever wants him. Hell if the other women think they have to sneak, they don’t. Shucks Stephanie don’t even know what is happening to her but I do, lol. Mother of two I am happy for him and her too. Shucks yes!!
Tara Tulips,
You’ve stopped posting, what happened? I enjoyed talking to you and Rebecca. My hubby likes the site and we sit down together to post now. He and Stevie are still going strong and she thinks he is into her. She keeps him updated on her changes and poor baby is still begging him and wanting to know when he is going to get the divorce papers so they can be happy together. I guess she has not learned yet that she won’t get him to be happy ever after. I feel bad for her and all the other women who think the married guys is going to leave his family for her. He may leave the family but he won’t come to you cause “it” won’t be so much fun anymore. The adrenaline of cheating will be gone and so will you…lol.
Glad to know I’ve been missed,still here just going to other threads since this one has become a bit redundant,and I’ve already said what I need to say a 100 times over. Glad to know your having fun.You’ll find me on other threads if your looking.Stay safe
LMAO This T woman isn’t getting the reaction she wants. Her bait that she’s trying to throw out keeps getting deflected with a neutral reaction.Just tell the board what kind of reaction your trying to get T and we’ll throw you a bone and make your day.LOL
My wife cheated on my three years ago with a “friend” so what do we call the man who is a homewrecker?
Lets see if T invites a nice big stud like me to do her husband.LOL
Tara,
You are right, it has gotten a bit redundant and boring on this thread but I still miss what you have to say and Rebecca too. I have learned so much from this site and I have actually put some of it to work for me and the other woman or the third leg. I initially thought this site was a bad because the other women were bragging about their “taking husbands” but I actually have learned a lot from you and the women like you. I appreciate you if no one else does.
All, sex is a 50/50 but the other women think that they can go after the married men just because he’s married thinking they are getting a good thing. Guess what, they get nothing except used! Of course the married men will tell them how much he loves them but only because they know the weak ones want to hear that and he gets what he wants…the sex. I guess I can see how and why it happens and what fools they are. My “boyfriend” of many years told me he loves me but he doesn’t. He loves the sex and I’m okay with him screwing you if you let him. Ask Stevie, she’s a great step in for me cause I don’t have to be touched like that by him.
I am loving this other woman concept and I think you should too! She will get old so be patient and let the sex takes it course.
Tara, it looks like you have a stalker or another woman who has to be a little obsessed with you. She can’t stop bringing up your name.Has she even seen what you look like or is she just fixated on your personality? LOL
T ,you still haven’t answered me. I’m 9 inches and clean shaven with a great tongue. Would your husband like me? I’d love to spend time on your boat. LMAO Sen me your email T.
T,you’re coming apart like a $3.00 watch,get yourself some help.You’re what we call a 5150
No Donald she’s never seen me. I just hit a nerve and got her annoynance and irritation stirred up with the truth now she’s trying to use reverse psycology by being saracastic.Some people just don’t really know how transparent they really are.If she really did learn anything from me then she would shut up about the other woman and leave her husband.If you haven’t picked up already most people just ignore her.You should do the same.
We’re on a few other threads now come join us on there.
I must say. I am stunned by some of the comments here. I felt the need to post something from my perspective. I married my high school sweetheart and we were deeply in love. we have been together for 23 years and 5 kids. Marriages and LIFE have their ups and downs. Husbands and wives have their individual low points in their lives. We lost a child and suffered alow point in our life and in our marriage. No 23 year union is absolutely perfect all the time. My husband succombed to the advances of a homewrecker who had ruined two other marriages before she met my husband. He was weak and pathetic. What he did was unforgivable. Horrible. Our family and friends all know and tell him what a horrible, immoral thing he did. We go to counselling and discuss my hurt feelings. My husband is paying dearly for his infidelity. The guilt eats at him- maybe it should. But what about the homewrecker? She feels no guilt and no shame. She hides her face and name and no one knows what she did. If she has nothing to be ashamed of , then why not tell the world? I find it reprehensible that people would make generalized statements about the quality of people’s marriages, blaming the wife! Or blaming it on a bad marriage! this is nonsense. This is not always the case, and to make off as if every cheater is in a bad marriage is just wrong! The cheating is because of my husband’s flaws and weaknesses and his inability to handle LIFE! But you know it takes two, and the homewrecker is partly responsible. She pursued him, she knew he was married with kids, she wasn’t in love- they met ONCE! Both of them are immoral and I do not want to hear any of this homewrecker garbage about how the homewrecker didn’t do anything wrong. The 2 people who are 100% responsible and bare blame in EVERY part of the infidelity are the homewrecker and the cheater. And i also believe it is horrible to pass judgement on any couple who decides to try to get past this – saying that the wife is stupid. Maybe some wives should stay and some wives should go. Each marriage is individual and it is wrong to assume thatthe only solution is divorce. That being said- I am uncertain if our marriage will end . we are trying to get past it. Karma will get you homewreckers, and the cheating husbands each in their own way..
You are right about one thing, each marriage is individual and no one can possibly know the reality of that marriage. I admire you for trying to work things out with your husband, but if you don’t let go of what happened it will be a miserable existance for both of you. As for the other woman, she may or may not be a low life, but it was your hussband who broke his wedding vows not her, no one forced him to do that. Men cheat for all sorts of reasons but if you want to make the marriage work you have to look at the marriage and not at the ‘homewrecker’ to identify what went wrong and how to rebuild. I agree with you about Karma but I profoundly disagree with you on one point, you were wrong to air you private business to family and friends, and they were wrong to interfere by commenting to him. This is something private that the two of you have to address, airing your dirty laundry in public compounds the problems rather than helping to resolve the issues. I wish you and your husband the very best in moving on with your marriage. Please don’t be offended by my comments, they are based on my own experience.
I’ll let go of what happened in my own time- when I am ready. I never said that I found out a long time ago. I just found out and am still getting over the initial shock. AND for your information- it was my husband that contacted my family to tell them- not me. I have not spoken a word about it to anyone in his family. HE also told his one friend because his friend was the one person whom he confided in during the affair. AND he also told our other friends so that they could provide ADDITIONAL support for me in my time of need. Once again I feel as if people like yourself are too quick to make hasty assumptions on the side against the wife. It really makes me wonder what side of the “experience” you really come from. Any woman who has had her heart ripped out by her husband really DOES know what I am talking about. It amazes me how brazenly some people defend these homewreckers as if they did nothing wrong- wasn’t she immoral? I guess not according to you. Get back to me once you have lost a child and see how much you like some dirty tramp preying on your husband’s grief and our family’s nightmare. Think about how well you would handle such profound sadness in a marriage and as a family. Oh yes- there you go- you found the wonderful, pitiful excuse for that woman to offer sex to a married man who was grieving and beside himself and whose wife was beside herself. You are right – it is the fault of the marriage that the homewrecker was just so darn irresistible. She can hold her head high because all she did was offer a one night stand to a man she knew for a total of 1 week and met once- AND she identified him as an easy mark through his grief. Oh – I have no doubt that it was his weakness that got US into this- but that woman is PURE EVIL. This is her third family that she destroyed. This was no accident on her part. It doesn’t surprise me that women who have made it a habit of screwing married men would believe just as you do. It helps them live with themselves since no one else wants to.
Another thing. I wasn”t raised in a family where one night stands are acceptable or where sleeping with married men is condoned. I find it fascinating that so many women are willing to just ignore the fact that these practices are wrong. It is NEVER ok to cheat on your spouse- no matter how horrible the marriage. Go to counselling or GET OUT! cheating is the most vile and contemptable thing to do- a coward’s action. But is it Ok then for a woman to offer sex to a man who is married – NO! the same applies- it is vile and contemptable just the same. I am moving on. I just thought I’d write about my experience so that other women who have been through something similar can see what happened to me. Maybe I could find some support and words of encouragement . Instead, all I see are people adamantly defending these women , and making assumptions about me , my marriage , and my ability to move on. I have been through hell and back with the death of my son. I don’t need anyone to tell me how to move on.I have been through the worst. Maybe you had a bad marriage, maybe you knew your husband always was a jerk and potential cheater, maybe you had difficulty pulling up your end of the marriage – but our marriage was none of those. I don’t know what perspective some of you women come from- maybe you are the homewrecker, maybe you DID have a bad marriage- I didn’t . And alot of marriages affected by infidelity are not as horrible as you make them out to be. I guess that is the dream of every homewrecker- she is saving him from a bad marriage. Well – it’s still not OK to sleep with a married man and you are still a woman who is morally bankrupt. Please , I love to hear people defend women who sleep with married men because they feel they are doing him and his marriage a favor. What nerve! The cheater is wrong and so is the homewrecker! I will examine my marriage with my husband and when I come up with something other than he couldn’t handle the loss of his son, and he lost his way and became a horrible person- I’ll let you know. What is her excuse – considering this is her third broken family.
But do you not consider the husband that sleeps with the other woman a ‘homewrecker’ too? What’s HIS excuse?
I understand your pain, and the need to fight back. I’m not defending her, If it was me i’d take a baseball bat to her head..
How dare you be critical of other women that you know nothing about. I can understand that you are hurting but you are not helping yourself. I offered you kind words of advice. No one said that the other woman was right to do what she did, but your issue is with your husband not her. I am deeply sorry about your loss, having faced the devastation of a very close bereavement myself my heart goes out to you. It is natural that you are angry, but it is a very distructive emotion. Please focus on what the two of you still have and find a way to move forward. As for the othe woman, forget her, people reap what they sew. I am not saying that for her benefit, I am saying it for your good, feeling bitter and angry about it is harming you and she really isn’t worth wasting your time or emotions on. Please don’t assume you have the monopoly on moral standards, I was raised with high standards much like you were, and most of the other people I have met on this site have a strong moral code too. Please don’t let your anger and bitterness cause you to alienate people who could offer you some support.
As justontime says, you are doing yourself no good with these destructive thoughts. I realise you feel a need to lash out,and we are handy anonymous targets.. Well if it helps then fire away, I think we can take it.
I aplogize if I offended anyone trying to help me. I do not take back any of the sentiments expressed about the wrongdoings of BOTH the husband and the cheater. I do thank you for any support you can give me. I guess the wounds are just too fresh. I can say this though. My husband and I are working hard to make things better. We go to counselling and we don’t even talk about that woman. It is good. We are getting along and trying to be positive and hopefully work through this and past this. I agree wholehearted ly that it is not healthy or productive to focus on that other person. I just wanted to be able to set the scene- accurately, so that others who have been in the same boat can compare- but, more importantly, if I could give pause to even one homewrecker or cheater by calling them BOTH out on their actions- well, maybe some good would come of it. As I said no man in any marriage ,good or bad, has a right to cheat. It is wrong- he is free to do what he wants- but there is no justification.
I do want to share the one persistent problem we are having as a couple. We will be going along fine and then a she will call him with some trumped up work issue. He handles it via email and then she leaves him threatening voicemails if he doesn’t call her directly. She threatens to expose him at work, and expose the work related parts of their affair. He is forced to work at the same company until he can find a new job. We have a family. He has been looking, but there are lots of good people out there looking for jobs. She leaves him antagonistic and outright threatening voicemails about 1-2x every 2 weeks or so.It is very upsetting to me. I worry about his job and I worry about my husband. He is so wracked with guilt- he knows he did this to us and to our family. He has told this woman when it was over that he loved his wife, he was sorry , and that he did not love her. She is angry now and just wants to see him suffer and for our family to suffer under her constant threats. It is a huge mess. I wish she would just leave us alone, have mercy on me and my kids, and accept my husband’s choice gracefully. If you could provide any advice that would keep me from being saddened by these threats- I would appreciate it. And I pray that I haven’t given any malicious homewreckers any ideas on how to continue to torment a man and his family once she is scorned.
I really feel for you in that situation. Her ongoing behaviour is vindictive in the extreme. Maybe he should keep a record of the emails and threatening voice mail and tell his company the truth. At least then he could get in first rather than living in fear of her doing it. I hope they would take his very sad family circumstances into account. I guess he could also get an injunction against her to stop her threats. I really don’t know what to suggest, it is not a good time to be looking for another job. I do hope you can stop her antics very soon, it is the last thing you need.
This Is Horrible, you are exactly on target. There are women out there who are predators, who trespass on other women’s lives, who set out to mate poach. You were entitled to trust and depend on your husband and he let you down in the most terrifying and fundamental way. You’ve joined a club no one wants to belong to. This site has a a certain number of home wreckers or home wrecker wannabes who feel compelled to blame the wife. It’s nonsense. They seek to justify their sleaze by blaming the wife. Don’t fall for it. Karma has a kick. You stand tall. They are the slime.
I agree with you on one thing fate tends to catch up with people in the end. I think you are unfair to this site, it offers a lot of help to people. I don’t think it would ever be justified to get involved with a married man (or woman) but it takes two. Don’t just blame the woman if it was the man who broke his vows. Having said all that I really feel for people who have been cheated on and I can understand why they may want to blame the other person rather than their partner.
Fate catches up to those who deserve it.
That’s what I meant Tara Tulips, what goes around comes around, but sometimes it take a while for that to happen.
“Thats Horrible” last timeI checked making threatening and harrassing calls is illegal and stalking. I had a boyfriend do that to me several years back and he was put on probabtion for two years plue an order of protection. Take action!PLUS the same rules apply to that one way or another in all states check into that
If the husband is miserable in a marriage with kids, it is his responsibility to work things out. See a marriage counselor. My husband refused to see a marriage counselor then one day he told my 10 year old he was going to the dry cleaners with his arm full of clothes. His plan was to live with the other woman and never come back. We had a hectic and stressful life but if we both took the time to seek help, we would still be a family and my three young kids wouldn’t be so confused!