Comments on: Marriage and Relationships — Do You Know the 7 Secrets to Affair Proofing Your Marriage? http://www.idcheaters.com/2008/02/marriage-and-relationships-do-you-know-the-7-secrets-to-affair-proofing-your-marriage.html Real Cheating and Infidelity - Stories and Advice Tue, 07 Feb 2012 00:32:12 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: poster25 http://www.idcheaters.com/2008/02/marriage-and-relationships-do-you-know-the-7-secrets-to-affair-proofing-your-marriage.html/comment-page-1#comment-145629 poster25 Fri, 29 May 2009 05:31:46 +0000 http://www.idcheaters.com/2008/02/marriage-and-relationships-do-you-know-the-7-secrets-to-affair-proofing-your-marriage.html#comment-145629 These are wonderful tips. I just don't think that people pay attention to boundaries. Then they are surprised when something goes wrong. These are wonderful tips. I just don’t think that people pay attention to boundaries. Then they are surprised when something goes wrong.

]]> By: justontime http://www.idcheaters.com/2008/02/marriage-and-relationships-do-you-know-the-7-secrets-to-affair-proofing-your-marriage.html/comment-page-1#comment-141857 justontime Sun, 12 Apr 2009 18:47:01 +0000 http://www.idcheaters.com/2008/02/marriage-and-relationships-do-you-know-the-7-secrets-to-affair-proofing-your-marriage.html#comment-141857 When I married, my parents made it very clear to me that I needed to be sure because once married I would need to make it work. I have very supportive parents and I know they would have helped me if it went badly wrong, but their words made me understand that this was a life changing decision. When I married, my parents made it very clear to me that I needed to be sure because once married I would need to make it work. I have very supportive parents and I know they would have helped me if it went badly wrong, but their words made me understand that this was a life changing decision.

]]> By: deltic http://www.idcheaters.com/2008/02/marriage-and-relationships-do-you-know-the-7-secrets-to-affair-proofing-your-marriage.html/comment-page-1#comment-141767 deltic Sat, 11 Apr 2009 20:51:37 +0000 http://www.idcheaters.com/2008/02/marriage-and-relationships-do-you-know-the-7-secrets-to-affair-proofing-your-marriage.html#comment-141767 Love does mess with your judgement, that is why you need to take your time and to take notice if your friends are doubtful about your new man. Love does mess with your judgement, that is why you need to take your time and to take notice if your friends are doubtful about your new man.

]]> By: kernow http://www.idcheaters.com/2008/02/marriage-and-relationships-do-you-know-the-7-secrets-to-affair-proofing-your-marriage.html/comment-page-1#comment-141669 kernow Fri, 10 Apr 2009 21:01:55 +0000 http://www.idcheaters.com/2008/02/marriage-and-relationships-do-you-know-the-7-secrets-to-affair-proofing-your-marriage.html#comment-141669 Yes we 'feel' but that is no excuse for not using your brain too. People need to look after themselves and take greater responsibility for the decisions they make. Yes we ‘feel’ but that is no excuse for not using your brain too. People need to look after themselves and take greater responsibility for the decisions they make.

]]> By: justontime http://www.idcheaters.com/2008/02/marriage-and-relationships-do-you-know-the-7-secrets-to-affair-proofing-your-marriage.html/comment-page-1#comment-141665 justontime Fri, 10 Apr 2009 20:44:07 +0000 http://www.idcheaters.com/2008/02/marriage-and-relationships-do-you-know-the-7-secrets-to-affair-proofing-your-marriage.html#comment-141665 You are right Imaginary Diva, but that is why it is wise to take things slowly and really get to know each other,ther is a lot of truth in the saying 'Wed in haste, repent at leisure'. You are right Imaginary Diva, but that is why it is wise to take things slowly and really get to know each other,ther is a lot of truth in the saying ‘Wed in haste, repent at leisure’.

]]> By: Imaginary Diva http://www.idcheaters.com/2008/02/marriage-and-relationships-do-you-know-the-7-secrets-to-affair-proofing-your-marriage.html/comment-page-1#comment-18481 Imaginary Diva Fri, 19 Dec 2008 04:38:46 +0000 http://www.idcheaters.com/2008/02/marriage-and-relationships-do-you-know-the-7-secrets-to-affair-proofing-your-marriage.html#comment-18481 justonetime, that's just the problem. We don't think when we get into a relationship. We feel.... justonetime, that’s just the problem. We don’t think when we get into a relationship. We feel….

]]> By: justontime http://www.idcheaters.com/2008/02/marriage-and-relationships-do-you-know-the-7-secrets-to-affair-proofing-your-marriage.html/comment-page-1#comment-8146 justontime Sun, 10 Aug 2008 09:15:19 +0000 http://www.idcheaters.com/2008/02/marriage-and-relationships-do-you-know-the-7-secrets-to-affair-proofing-your-marriage.html#comment-8146 I think perhaps if people took time to get to know and understand each other properly before rushing into a relationship/marriage, they may be more realistic in their expectations of each other. They would also have a better idea of their partner's ability to remain faithful within marriage. I think perhaps if people took time to get to know and understand each other properly before rushing into a relationship/marriage, they may be more realistic in their expectations of each other. They would also have a better idea of their partner’s ability to remain faithful within marriage.

]]> By: Imaginary Diva http://www.idcheaters.com/2008/02/marriage-and-relationships-do-you-know-the-7-secrets-to-affair-proofing-your-marriage.html/comment-page-1#comment-8119 Imaginary Diva Sat, 09 Aug 2008 04:41:04 +0000 http://www.idcheaters.com/2008/02/marriage-and-relationships-do-you-know-the-7-secrets-to-affair-proofing-your-marriage.html#comment-8119 SageMother, the reality of how affairs happen can be also "idealized" and it's not really as preventable as we'd like it to be. I just wish that maybe today's society hasn't given too much appreciation towards the union of marriage and the sanctity of what being a couple stands for. It's sad when you think of all the marriages that get broken day to day. SageMother, the reality of how affairs happen can be also “idealized” and it’s not really as preventable as we’d like it to be.

I just wish that maybe today’s society hasn’t given too much appreciation towards the union of marriage and the sanctity of what being a couple stands for. It’s sad when you think of all the marriages that get broken day to day.

]]> By: Imaginary Diva http://www.idcheaters.com/2008/02/marriage-and-relationships-do-you-know-the-7-secrets-to-affair-proofing-your-marriage.html/comment-page-1#comment-8118 Imaginary Diva Sat, 09 Aug 2008 04:35:46 +0000 http://www.idcheaters.com/2008/02/marriage-and-relationships-do-you-know-the-7-secrets-to-affair-proofing-your-marriage.html#comment-8118 Liza, this is where we all understand what kind of person we are with. If they are weak then they will give in to temptation. If they aren't, they will stand and say "no thank you". Don't you think? Liza, this is where we all understand what kind of person we are with. If they are weak then they will give in to temptation. If they aren’t, they will stand and say “no thank you”.

Don’t you think?

]]> By: SageMother http://www.idcheaters.com/2008/02/marriage-and-relationships-do-you-know-the-7-secrets-to-affair-proofing-your-marriage.html/comment-page-1#comment-6978 SageMother Wed, 25 Jun 2008 17:19:47 +0000 http://www.idcheaters.com/2008/02/marriage-and-relationships-do-you-know-the-7-secrets-to-affair-proofing-your-marriage.html#comment-6978 I agree, Liza. Warning signs are there and probably ignored. As far as causes for affairs, I think something else that happens is, as a couple ages, the ability to have those same experiences of youth are lost, and many find those feelings rekindled in an affair. I think we need to stop idealizing marriage, and address the real life issues facing those who have no tools to cope with the realities. I agree, Liza. Warning signs are there and probably ignored.

As far as causes for affairs, I think something else that happens is, as a couple ages, the ability to have those same experiences of youth are lost, and many find those feelings rekindled in an affair.

I think we need to stop idealizing marriage, and address the real life issues facing those who have no tools to cope with the realities.

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