You make some interesting points and it’s amazing that you finally see through the trees. I find a few things interesting about your post though and you can help me analyze it a little more. I see in your post a lot of pain and I sympathize with you. It sounds like rejection is the focus of your post but why would any spouse have to worry about signs of something being wrong especially when it involves a cheating spouse. Many may not “see the signs” because the spouse is very good at his or her cheating ways. Many over compensate to ensure the other does not find out, which is a coward.

As I said, many cheating spouses usually pick those who are below the standards of the one he or she may have at home, which makes it easy for them to continue the cheating ways. It’s not about looking at “ourselves” but the other woman in many of these cases, she cannot handle the rejection nor can she handle looking at herself because of her ways.

There should be no questions of why another spouse is cheating because it’s an institution that is brought together by God. If we are of God’s ways then we know that adultery should not be happening, right? We should not have to search our mates lives for cheating because if those substandard individuals would take a look at themselves and not be the lower part of the cheating “unfair relationship” then there would be no need. The question should be why would I, a real woman allow any man to use me as he chooses and throw me away when he is done? Should never be the case for any woman. This is not what any mother would want for her daughter, is it? We should teach our daughters to never let a man take advantage of her but we should also teach our daughters never to be the one to give the advantage away.

The other person owes everything to her self and should not expect anyone to look after her. Why make the decision to be the “other woman” or what most men refer to “as something that just happened?” Very degrading for any woman.

Why would any woman want to deal with the change of being the other person for the man or anyone? That is the type of change that signifies the woman does not respect herself. Is this the image we want men to see? If so, then they know they have an easy prey that any man could use. Why would he want us?

And only the other woman would ask this question, “If the relationship was not good before the cheating began, why so much fighting when it is brought to light?” Why would be so dumb to believe that the relationship was never good in the first place? Haven’t we realized in these days that he will tell us what we want to hear so that he can get what he wants, “you on your back and legs wide open?” We need to stick together as women to teach those who are lost and can not find their way.

Family is suppose to be there for us, use your family to keep you safe and help you be the lady we should be as women. Ladies will never sell themselves for the sake of “having a man” that someone else has. Never!!

Why do other women destroy relationships with children in it? The children should not be forced from their parents for the other woman to be laid. That is not right and we are supporting and helping to increase the divorce rates in this country. Is that God’s intention? I don’t think so because his word says, “What God has brought together, let no man put asunder.” That means YOU as “other women” in case you did not get it.

Hurt “other women,” why do you constantly pursue and degrade yourself by continuing to break up families and marriages? Now, we have to wonder if you or those like you find these sites helpful? I hope so because it’s your own self esteem and respect that is at risk. The husband continues to fight for his marriage, family, but yet keep you, I think when he wants to relieve himself. Why allow yourself to be degraded as a woman like this?

If the cheating spouse continues to cheat, then you continue to allow yourself to be used, humiliated, disrespected by that cheating spouse and man; you continue to beg him to leave his family, abandon his child, forsake his vows before God, and foster the sadness in your own life. Just why do you stay after the damage you have caused? Your self esteem to be lowered even more, your self respect to be lowered, the respect of your colleagues and others who know you are involved with breaking a child’s dream and family apart. Is he really that good to you? Probably not at the end of the day, so stop and look at who you are at the end of the day. Are you really that woman who sit in church clenching your Bible, raising your hands to Heaven, and then going to bed with this married man?

Who are you really? Who are the women really? God be with you! The God of YOUR understanding cause only Satan foster chaos and blesses the behavior you speak of. WWJD, really what would he do?

I do not agree with all your comments. I am a divorced woman and I would not stay with a cheating husband. The same fantasy that my ex-husband was getting in the street; he could have gotten it at home. I left my husband because he had no respect for me or our marriage. So, I will admit our divorce was not all his fault. We had some issues in the marriage, but who the hell doesn’t.

It appears that you are only speaking for yourself, not all wives except cheating. I do not have any married friends that would allow their husband to cheat and turn their heads to it.

If you are a wife that is totally fine with your husband cheating on you-Great! It appears that you have esteem issues that need to be handled as soon as possible or maybe your are desperate for a man.

It is true some husband do find there way back home. I agree why should the wife or husband give up a life that she/he is comfortable with. I just really appreciate the wonderful attorney and judge that has help me to keep my lifestyle.

The wives stay because they know their husbands are with women like you who are there to fulfill their temporary moments of needing sex. They are fine cause they have developed that relationship with their husbands, they know what they want, and they give them the space to do it…be with “other women” who will allow themselves to be used knowing he is not going anywhere but home. He is a family man who really knows his family is important to him and that women like you are weak and and need them to build your self esteem. No, the wives don’t need to go, they should stay cause they have made that investment. Haven’t you heard that it makes no sense to invest in short term stocks, you don’t get great returns on them. It’s better to invest for the long haul, let it sit and build, then reap the benefits of your investment.

So in essence, if he is using you or other women like you let it be okay because you and the others will become old and no longer be that fantasy and then he will move on. He may move to something new or just decide that his time “out there” is over and now it’s time to grow up. He knows that you are what you are and get tired of lying and listening to you whine that you are in this “unfair relationship” and want more. When he gets tired of that you will be replaced and the next one will come alone. You will continue your ways of being the “other woman” and maybe, just maybe you will get a husband and the “other woman” will show you what you were and how similar you all really are…sad women with low or no self esteem or respect for yourself or the institution of marriage and family. God be with you cause in your fake way of praising him, you must know that you will reap what you soweth. You do read the word don’t you? Oh yea, you may actually have lived that fake life with him hoping that he will be with your forever. God really is with you even when you don’t see but one set of footprints in the sand.

You are right, porn stars do make a ton of cash and it is definitely a high risk job. Okay, is it me or are we seeing more infidelity make its way out these days? The same story though, the other woman always seem to think that the man will leave his wife and family for her. Will they ever know that they are just there to as pick up “bitches” instead of steady women? Is it just me or do we see more and more of the “other women” hanging around like the slim they are, lol? I don’t know but I guess they do serve a purpose in life and we have to give them their due….”semen holders.” Way to go ladies….or are they really a lady?

If I was single, I probably will make sure the question “have you ever been a porn star before” makes it to my list of pre-qualifying questions when I meet a guy.

As a result, there are different views on porn which contributes to its distribution in some cases.

Ultimately I think it would be best to address the concerns with your husband, which I’m sure could be difficult.