It’s sometimes easy to jump to the conclusion that a person is being unfaithful. If they seem withdrawn, distant or moody we may attribute that to their having a lover. This isn’t always the case. Every woman will show different characteristics if she is having an affair. Some women are experts at keeping their emotions under covers and you won’t think anything is amiss at all. Other women aren’t as good at it, and they may be the ones who break down in tears more often out of a sense of guilt, or become angry because they blame their husband for their own infidelity. One of the most obvious signs of wife infidelity is a drastic change in mood.
Another warning sign to look for if you suspect your wife is being unfaithful is a change in her appearance. Some women don’t wear make-up as often or don’t get their hair done as frequently as they used to, once they have settled into married life. They feel comfortable being natural in front of their husbands. If your wife is keeping company with a new intimate partner she’s likely going to want to look her best. Going on a crash diet, getting a new hairstyle or investing in a new wardrobe may all signal adultery is taking place.
Women are typically good at keeping secrets and this really comes into play if they are cheating. One of the most subtle signs of wife infidelity is a woman who suddenly seems careful about granting anyone access to her cell phone or computer. If your wife has always been willing to let you or the children use her cell or her computer, and then changes her mind suddenly without an explanation, something isn’t adding up. Chances are that she’s either got her lover’s phone number or stored text messages on her cell. She may also be trying to hide sensitive emails.
A change in her schedule at work can also be a clue to her extramarital affair. If she suggests that she has to work late, when that’s never been in the case in the past, this is a warning sign of wife infidelity. When she does come home, take a moment to notice if she seems anxious or uncomfortable when talking to you about what kept her at the office. Also be sure to pay attention to any hint of a man’s cologne on her skin or clothing.
If a woman is cheating on her husband she may invite her lover over. It’s important to be aware of anything that seems out of place in the home. It may be something as small as an unfamiliar pair of socks or gift wrap in a trash container, if he brought her a present. These are often the most apparent signs of wife infidelity.
Any man who is suspicious of his wife’s extramarital behavior should keep an extra close eye on her. Cheaters slip up sometimes and even though it’s painful to discover that your wife is unfaithful, it’s always better to know the truth.
Infidelity is unfortunately a part of many marriages. Men are victims of adultery almost as often as women are. Recognizing the warning signs of an adulterous wife is important. They can save any man from a lot of heartbreak.
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I have heard that a lot of times women will start dressing better and start paying attention to their looks more. At least this is what I have heard from people.
My brother-in-law started using after-shave, bought several new ties and even went to the dentist for a tooth cleaning! Then he moved in with his girlfriend.
Good riddance!!!
Being treated as someone who is sexually desirable, instead of being taken for granted, breeds the desire to be attractive. This is one of the reasons affairs happen.
Paying attention to a spouse as if they are a guest in your life and might leave at any moment, keeps you mindful of why you want them, resulting in your communicating your desire for them.
I have at least 3 of those warning signals, I am on a diet, I am trying to get my hair done oon a regular basis and nice clothes are definitely in the picture, but I am not cheating. Those are nice tips but they only work combined with oher things.
Very interesting article. I think that one of the best ways to tell if you are being cheated on is to ask questions, and communicate in general. You can check phone numbers and emails too, but I think that if somebody is cheating, there is something missing in their relationship at home, and it can be fixed.
Tater03, of course! You know it’s like being in love all over again. You try to look better. You try to lose more weight. You buy new clothes. You buy new perfume.
This is how it normally is in the beginning. It’s just too bad if you are doing this and you are already in a relationship.
When I woman gets frequents comments on how she looks from admirers outside, chances are she will continue to dress nicely or sexy to continue getting those comments even if the admiration is not coming from a spouse. That is why spouses should not take each other for granted.
What sensible advice SageMother. Familiarity breeds contempt they say, and although contempt may be too strong a word for it, there’s certainly allot of partners taken for granted in relationships.
For Valentine’s Day, I surprised my hubby by sending him flowers, having them delivered at his workplace. The look on his face when he got home was worth every penny, and the reminder of his importance in my life will be linked to the experience.
Taking time to do the unexpected brings warmth to relationships. Even though the flowers were “public”, their significance is emotionally intimate.
SageMother, that’s right. Sometimes we forget that they also have needs to be treated right. We should never forget to celebrate their contribution towards the relationship.
Jewel, communication is the real key in a relationship. Especially the part where one talks and the other listens. Barriers of communication breaks down in a relationship when one does the talking and the other is not listening.
I do agree with the point that familiarity breeds content, because I seen cases when couples are at each other’s throat because one partner has friends (of the opposite sex) who has no problem calling weird hours at nights and in the mornings, among other things
You know what I have found when I see some one that is beginning an affair. It starts out innocent and then in the case of one of my friends it fell into an emotional affair way before it became sexual. The sad thing was that this person he feel for was basically telling him things that he wanted to hear and in the end realized that the person he wanted to hear it most from was the person he was living with at the time.
SageMother, that is so very sweet of you, and yes, you are right, taking time to do unexpected things can reap the best rewards in a relationship.
Wow, he must have been really surprised. I think I will do that on my hubby’s birthday in October.
Liza, I think if you do that on a regular basis and it’s just in your nature to want to look fantastic, that’s great! So, your significant other is probably used to seeing you like that most of the time.
Now, I think he will think something is up if you started wearing shorter skirts, or too much perfume if you don’t normally do that.
MollyL, exactly!
When we want to impress someone we really go out of our way to change to make us more attractive.
In the case of your brother-in-law, it won’t be long until he stops doing it now that he’s moved in and got the girl. Then, just like me, he’ll probably go back to wearing ripped jeans and t-shirts…. and the vicious cycle begins again.
tator03, You’re right. Sometimes we get so caught up in “life” that we forget to say and do nice things for our significant others. We get too comfortable and think that our spouses know that we love, need, and cherish them and there’s no need to say or show it. I guess that’s when they go out and get what they want but aren’t getting at home from someone else…still not a good enough excuse for cheating, but nonetheless, a huge reason why affairs happen.
Liza, that absolutely drives me crazy and insane. Same thing with my husband too.
We both have friends of the opposite sex that call at weird hours and we’ve just made a rule not to pick up our phone after a certain time. So that he doesn’t get mad and I don’t get mad. The compromise reall has worked very well!
Tater03, I think it’s called emotional transference. That’s when the person who is cheating is really looking for the same response from his/her spouse.
If they are not getting it at home, then they go and find a substitute.
And that’s all it is when everything is said and done with, it’s a SUBSTITUTE.
Liza, that’s so true also.
I guess when it comes to looking for the signs of cheating…. it’s a no win situation.
Either you are looking for something that is not there, or you could be right that something is just not quite right.
AMC, we are all human and in some shape of form we want to know that we are accepted everyday of our lives.
Sometimes we just tend to forget that eventhough we expect that acceptance and the caring from our partner, that we, in return, must give them the same. Because they are just like us with the same needs.
I will admit at times I do become complacent, but with work and baby and everything else, sometimes it gets too much.
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