At least three times a week, he would claim to be working overtime at the office until the early hours of the morning. He would also get all these phone calls late at night and when she asked him about them, he would just say it was “work” or a “wrong number”.
The other day while cleaning the house, she found a credit card bill under her husband’s name for a credit card that she didn’t know existed! And as she scanned the charges on the bill, there really was no doubt in her mind that her husband is having an affair.
If you’ve ever been in the same situation as her, you would know that it is difficult to decide where to go from this point on.
The first thing that came to her mind was to get into her car, drive to his office and confront him about his affair. But she knows him all to well – he’ll just say that she was making a problem about nothing. So instead, she calmly made a plan to find out more about the “other woman”. She figured that he won’t have any more excuses left to say if she knew all the facts.
She knew that her husband’s cell phone will have her phone number. She waited until he was asleep that night before she snuck a peek and took down the recent phone numbers. Within minutes she knew the name and address of the other woman by running the phone numbers through a reverse phone number search on the internet.
She really wasn’t surprised when he called from the office the next day to tell her that he would be working late again. She knew it was now or never, and even if her heart was breaking into a thousand pieces she still needed to know the truth. She drove to the address listed on the reverse phone number search and waited to catch him on the act.
It wasn’t much of wait because not too long after his car pulled up. She saw him ring the doorbell and disappear inside the house. Gathering up all her courage, she slowly walked to the front door of the house and knocked. When the door opened, she said, “My name is Sarah and I am Tom’s wife”.
It was then that she realized that the other woman did not have a clue that she was dating a married man.
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Isn’t it amazing what can be done with patience and self control? This woman should be applauded. Most of us aren’t quite that brave!
SageMother, she’s one of a kind. She’d rather know than pretend nothing is wrong. It’s a good thing they don’t have kids.
And she felt more bad for the other woman because she was able to get closure….. She just moved on.
Wow, that is really great. I love hearing stories about women (and men I suppose) waiting it out, only to catch their significant other in a position that they put themselves in, such as in this story. I agree that this woman should be applauded.
meh. I’ve seen more impressive stuff on the show “cheaters”.
Has no-one noticed the first two lines???
What she did takes great courage, especially when you must consider how stressed she was at the time. I was cheated on once and I could barely move my body from one chair to the next for nearly a week.
I wish I’d been more like her!
Why did she even bother looking? She should know that her man is always right and her place is just in the kitchen!
Jewel, she’s a smart one… definitely. Knows when to pack up and go. Now, she’s a lot more happier.
I guess you can call it divine intervention.
Kala, I’m sure you have that arrangement in your relationship…. but not everyone is stupid enough to sit still while their man cheats on them!
I think that it is great that she found the courage to do this. Only because then she was sure and there was no way he could even try to talk himself out of it.
Tater03, I think this was really a very good closure for her.
If it was me, I would never have done it. I would have just walked away and to hell with it. I would never have given him the satisfaction.
That sounds like something I might do, but to tell you the truth, I don’t think I would have been as calm when I knocked on the door. I know that I shouldn’t be yelling at the other woman, because she probably didn’t have a clue, but I would be so worked up at that point, that I would probably be very loud.
I didn’t even realise that there was such a thing as a reverse phone number search. Good to know these things, though I hope I don’t need to.
Green-Moo, LOL! I am a big fan of the reverse phone number search.
This puts paid to the argument that every woman who is having an “affair” is an evil, scheming bitch. More times than not, it seems, the “other woman” is an innocent party who had no clue her “boyfriend” was someone else’s husband.
mollyL, do they think we have stupid written across our foreheads?
For every woman out there that has been cheated on, don’t buy into the crap that the “other woman” is an innocent third party. But also, don’t fall into the trap that your husband is innocent in all of this either. He is as responsible for this problem.
I’m sure most ‘other women’ must at least suspect that their boyfriend isn’t as single as he makes out.
Green-Moo, I’m sure that the ‘other woman’ is not dumb, and there will definitely be a time they she will realize that there is something different about her relationship.
That’s when she needs to make a choice, and sometimes it’s not for the best.
Diva, I was not taking any of the blame which sets square on the husband’s shoulders; I have never intimated the husband wasn’t the one to blame. Neither did I intimate that ALL other women are innocent. My point, as verified in the above story, is that not all other women are aware that their boyfriend is married.
I think where it becomes hard is when the other woman isn’t aware at first that her boyfriend is married. She will realise eventually perhaps, but by then she may be in love with him and find it that much more difficult to walk away.
mollyL, you are right. Not every woman who becomes the other woman knows right away that they are the “other woman”. They might even be thinking that their man is cheating on them because of all the signs that they see.
I do know so many women who fall into that trap where the man promises to leave his woman for them, and it rarely happens unless she dumps him.
Green-Moo, you know, maybe I shouldn’t be making a lot of assumptions on the part of the “other woman” because I’ve never been one.
I’m sure that they also feel betrayed as much as “the woman” and who is to say that they haven’t tried to leave. It’s so hard for us to stay away from things that are bad for us and the concept is the same.
I’ve known both types of “the other woman.” Surprisingly, the type who did not know that the man was married still continues to stay in the relationship about 90% of the time. Leaving would be a hard thing to do, but the right thing to do.
As for the other type, there are so many “hoochiefied” women that only want to date married men. They know well in advance that they are with married men.
So really it goes both ways. In this situation, this other woman had no clue. It would have been interesting to see what decision she made.