Tip #1: Listen to his shop talk: Most of my female friends tell me that they just want their guy to listen more but that he is often tuning them out. If this happens to you, the problem just may be that you are tuning out his shop talk - you know, his talk about work, sports, or fixing his car. Try listening to and validating what he is saying. Your man wants nothing more than for you to respect his ideas. When you do, you can bet he will shower you with the attention you crave.
Tip #2: Make him feel he knows best: Yes, men are on average a bit prouder than women (sorry, guys). So, make him feel that he is smart, in control, and knows best - all of the time. Guess what? The minute he starts feeling that you genuinely respect his every thought is the minute he will actually give up control to you. He would love to unload some of that pride and be with a woman he can trust. Give him a reason to trust you and he will be yours.
Tip #3: Let him be right well over 50% of the time: Similar to #2, stop keeping a scorecard about who is right and who is wrong. Men are extremely competitive, so let your man be right - even when you know he is dead wrong. This is not fibbing, this is just good harmonizing. Following this strategy will endear him to like you will not believe. And, you will be surprised at how often he will actually come around to seeing things your way in the end.
Tip #4: Avoid reminding him you will be together forever: Okay, here is one to avoid. A number of my male friends have told me that a real romance mood killer is to tell your man, ‘[Bob], I just know we will be together forever.’ You may be saying this out of love or out of insecurity. No matter - statements like this make him want to run away screaming. Instead, always make your man feel that your love is now, in the moment. Keep it exciting. Keep it fresh, and he will keep coming around for more.
Tip #5: Be proud of every inch of your body: Come on, we all have them: those days when we don’t look our best. Or, we have a part of our body that we sort of wish looked better (or was just not there)! If you are like most women, on those days you actually put less effort into your appearance: you put on fewer accessories, you skip doing your hair, and you may even walk with a bit of a slouch. This is a no-no. A man finds nothing more attractive than a woman who is proud of how she looks and acts the part. There is beauty in imperfection (and we all have them - even supermodels feel they do). A woman who can pull off looking proud and confident even amidst imperfections will emanate a mystique that will drive her man wild.
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Honestly, if this is what it takes to get a guy back, I don’t want him. As for #2, there are ways to be respectful to both him and yourself without making him feel like he is right or superior.
Jewel, this guy would be a goner for me too. Sometimes some men are just a lost cause.
Yes, it does seem that some guys are a lost cause. I have had my fair share of experiences with some of these guys, and it’s not worth it.
Jewel, I really seriously don’t know why women put up with asses like that.
I would agree with you. If it takes this much work to get him back he is best gone if you ask me.
Tater03,I know! But can you imagine, you and I are probably the rare few that thinks this is not okay.
I don’t believe in wasting time with someone that treats you like crap.
Amen sisters! The last thing we need to do is turn the clock back to 1950 and pretend that he is king and we were made to serve.
Oh my! I don’t think my husband got the memo….
I have to disagree strenuously with all my Sisters here.By following these rules, you would only be doing exactly what you did when you first fell in love. Men will try to get you to think they don’t need love (or validation if you like)but that’s not true. They need more love than we do, they just think it’s sissy to think so, or are afraid to ask for it.
I have to admit listening to the shop talk can be a bit draining, but if you won’t listen to it, how can you blame your hubby when he tunes you out? Come on, Ladies, you know you want your man to look at you and treat you the same way he did when you were first together; this is how to get it back.
I think that my man listens more to me when I listen to him. I find that there are other ladies out there who hangs on to his every word and seem to be waiting to do whatever they can for him. He in turn seem to prefer to be in thier company.
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