A recent MSNBC online poll supposedly shows infidelity is on the decrease. In an article about the poll, MSNBC offers the quaint idea that so few people are cheating due to our feelings for those we have allegedly committed to.
The idea of decreased infidelity clearly flies in the face of the average person’s perception, let alone other polls, surveys and indicators. But it is the unrecorded, unscientific evidence that is the most damning. How people feel about infidelity is evident from simply asking them. The average person is likely to respond with a resounding “Yes!” if asked if they think more people–married and otherwise–cheat on their partners.
People cheat all the time, and they admit it. We’re living in a society that seems to accept infidelity as a social norm. We don’t seem to look down on others for engaging in such activity, especially because we do it ourselves (well, I don’t but most people I know do).
The absurdity of the “poll” results was only bested by the attempt to explain an admittedly shocking conclusion.
Bed hopping is not as common as we think, and a big reason why more people aren’t wandering is that we love our boyfriends, girlfriends, spouses.
Is love a new discovery? Has the single most popular theme of books, movies and music been nothing more than an illusion until now? While admittedly not as popular as lust, love has been around and been considered quite important since the dawn of time. Everything good and decent man can do he has done in the name of love. Many thinking people have considered love to be the most powerful force in the universe. And it has, doubtless kept many a person from straying. But is certainly not the new force that keeps the marriage bed sacred. People have loved and cheated at the same time and will continue to do so until we, or the earth, are no more.
The article admits through the poll’s lower-than-logical figure that we’re a long way from becoming a society of the faithful:
But no matter how loving and well-intentioned we are, some people do stray — 22 percent of survey takers in monogamous relationships say they’ve cheated on their current partner.
The operative word is “current.” Relationships are shorter than ever, so cheating on a new partner, breaking up and cheating on another new partner will clearly add up to a lot of cheating in a few years. What’s more is yo-yo relationships are quite popular, so with the increased number of “booty calls” it is almost the norm for people to have additional sexual flings after the relationship has ended, but also after a new one has begun.
Go-back sex is quite popular among women who are keeping deliberate track of the number of sexual partners they’ve had. With a willing ex, they can enjoy the sex without the need of an abacus. They can then honestly report the number of people they’ve been with and pad their report with artificial doses of morality.
Although referencing useless stats lacking a straightforward, concise number of how many, the report seems to have at least one piece of unadulterated truth:
Young or old, married or living together, kids or no kids, assorted relationships show similar rates of infidelity. In that sense, “everyone is vulnerable,”
Finally, something we can all agree on. Cheaters indeed wear one-size-fits-all red letters. Even the elderly are stepping out more frequently–enjoying the company of those engaged in the world’s oldest profession. While some people just don’t cheat, there is not a single group of people, be it classified by age, race, religion, social or financial status, who are statistically less prone to stray.
Neither is there a group, save the stupid, who is more or less likely to be caught. And one needn’t have a cunning or brilliant mind to catch their partner cheating. One only need be slightly more so than they are. Or, follow this advice, camouflaged as a shameless plug for my services:
If they are cheating, they are talking. Find the numbers they are calling (or the phone numbers they are being called from), and let us identify them for you. Our cell phone number search investigations are the cheapest and most effective way to catch a cheating partner.
About the Author
James Lam is an infidelity investigator and owner of the popular investigative site CellularTrace.com
Oh, yes, we may not look at the elderly as sexual beings, but definitely, there is a lot of hanky-panky going on with our beloved “oldsters”. Ask anyone who works with the elderly in a medical context, and they will put you right. The elderly love sex, and God bless them for it.
If someone cheats and feels he/she has got away with it he/she will become more confident and complacent and eventually they will arouse suspicion or get caught out.
mollyL, LOL!
I don’t think there is much of an age gap when it comes to sex.
Everyone loves to do it no matter what their age orientation they are in
justontime, it’s really a matter of when you get caught and not if you get caught.
So, you better be ready to decide on what your choice is going to be when that happens.
What do you mean? I have never cheated in my life. I don’t think you could have read my previous post properly!
I know of a couple that are well into their 50s… almost 60. They keep their union alive in many ways, not only being active with things they both like, but they still have little escapades to enjoy sexually as if they were teenagers! I guess that could be some kind of vaccination against cheating…
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