\”A workplace friendship with someone of the opposite sex can easily become a workplace romance.\” says infidelity expert Ruth Houston, founder of www.InfidelityAdvice.com Houston, author of Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs cautions, \”Anytime workmates of the opposite sex work in close proximity on a regular basis for extended periods of time, the potential for workplace romance or office affairs exists.
But how can someone tell if their opposite sex friendship with a co-worker is in the danger zone? To help identify workplace friendships dangerously close to becoming a workplace romance, infidelity expert Ruth Houston has designed the Workplace Romance Quiz which appears below.
The Workplace Romance Quiz
1. Are you concealing information about your workplace friendship from your spouse or significant other?
2. Do you confide in your workplace friend now instead of your spouse?
3. Do you find yourself turning to your workplace friend for emotional support?
4. Is your workplace friend more fun to be with than your spouse?
5. Do you complain to your workplace friend about your spouse or your marriage?
6. Do you devote more time, attention or energy to your workplace friend than you devote to your spouse?
7. Do you concoct reasons or create excuses to be with your workplace friend?
8. Do you miss your workplace friend when you\’re not together?
9. Do you find your workplace friend sexually attractive?
10. Do you use your workplace friend as a sounding board for your personal problems?
11. Would you act differently toward your workplace friend if your spouse were present?
12. Do you fantasize about your workplace friend ?
13. Would your spouse be upset to see how you interact with workplace friend?
14. Would you be uncomfortable with the situation if your spouse had a similar workplace friendship with someone of the opposite sex?
SCORING: Count the total number of yes answers.
1 – 4 This is a relatively harmless workplace friendship unless both
questions 1 and 9 were answered yes. That automatically puts this friendship in the danger zone.
5 – 8 This is workplace friendship that is dangerously close to becoming a workplace affair. If both 1 and 9 were answered yes, it\’s already there.
9 – 14 This is a workplace friendship which has already advanced to the level of a workplace affair. As such, it poses a VERY serious threat to the marriage or relationship of the individuals involved.
Copyright 2007 Ruth Houston, founder of InfidelityAdvice.com
Those concerned about their (or their partner\’s ) workplace friendship and want to know what to do, should request Houston\’s free tip sheet entitled \” How to Keep a Workplace Friendship from Becoming a Workplace Romance.\” E-mail InfidelityAdvice@gmail.com with \”Workplace Romance Tip Sheet-p\” in the subject line.
For more information about workplace romance and office affairs, visit http://www.InfidelityAdvice.com
About Ruth Houston
Infidelity expert Ruth Houston is the founder of Infidelity Advice.com and the author of Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs, which documents practically every known sign of infidelity. Frequently called on by the media to comment on infidelity issues in the news, Ruth has been quoted in the New York Times, the Wall Street Journal, the Los Angeles Times, Cosmopolitan, the New York Post, the Chicago Tribune, the San Francisco Chronicle, the National Post, Macleans, iVillage, MSN Lifestyle, UPI, Reuters, Agence France-Presse and numerous other print and online media. Ruth has appeared as a guest on The Today Show, Good Day New York, 1010WINS, CNN, CN8, BBC, CBC, Ireland\’s Late Late Show and over 320 other radio and TV talk shows worldwide. For more information about workplace romance and office affairs, visit http://www.InfidelityAdvice.com
(PRWEB) February 13, 2007
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I don’t think any of us really need a quiz to work out if our opposite sex friendships are slipping into a danger zone. Anyone who is honest to themselves must know if they are behaving or thinking in an inappropriate way.
Green-Moo, I still think though that honesty goes down the drain when emotion gets the better of us.
I agree with Green-Moo, I think we know if a friendship could potentially cross the line. If you take note of the warning signs, the danger can be avoided.
I also agree with Green-Moo…we DO know when our feeling for an office friend is more than just frienship. What we do with it, however, is another matter.
Emotion can ge the better of a person, but when you think about your partner and how devastated he/she would be it helps you to stop any thought of anything before it starts.
It is one thing to acknowledge feelings, but quite another to act on them.
I am sure there are tons of little office crushes that never become affairs, mainly because the ARE associated with the job that pays the bills.
People who jeopardize that have more problems than the crush.
Well, I have a very firm policy: no romance or any kind of interests other than work related and perhaps friendship at the work place. That is something I try to respect as much as possible.
Justontime, it’s just so hard sometimes to separate friendship and a budding romance, especially when you see that person 5 days a week.
Since there is no romance involved, it might even be an “ideal” relationship. You communicate better with each other without the stress of bills, money management and god knows what else is happening at home.
Imaginary Diva: I don´t think that is as “ideal” relationship. There are no pressures you have at home, but there are other things. And at work, there is always one that will have a problem sooner or later.
We have just had a situation at work. A couple who both work at the same location in the company split up after a number of years together. He is now having a fling with someone else within the company, it is messy to say the least and it impacts on everyone.