Comments on: The Infidelity Survival Guide For Men

By: deltic

deltic — Thu, 07 May 2009 23:31:31 +0000

There was lots of useful information in this article, it is good that someone is writing for men.

By: justontime

justontime — Wed, 06 May 2009 23:51:07 +0000

I thought this was a very good article with lots to make me think about this from the man’s point of view.

By: berlinlife06

berlinlife06 — Wed, 15 Oct 2008 16:51:26 +0000

Thinking about the predisposition of the genders and their education, I have to agree with Sagemother. I know for some men is even unconceivable that they might get cheated on, and if it happens, their world crumbles in ways that they never thought it would.

By: SageMother

SageMother — Wed, 15 Oct 2008 16:34:43 +0000

Trust is often based on the unspoken assumptions based in acculturation. The male raised to believe that a woman will not stray usually has the added support for that assumption from society.

The moment he realizes that his indoctrination into his gender role, is not universal or no longer exists, his maleness is called into question. His sense of self is ripped away.

While the woman who strays has stepped beyond this unspoken agreement, her act isn’t the only betrayal he is dealing with.

The predisposition to raise girls differently is by no means universal, and not all girls accept their roles as taught to them by their families and culture.

By: Liza

Liza — Wed, 15 Oct 2008 03:04:28 +0000

I do believe that society is changing, just today I was in a training session, and one young man said he thinks he needs to do more housework, the ladies were very impressed.

By: Imaginary Diva

Imaginary Diva — Sat, 16 Aug 2008 17:47:04 +0000

SageMother, to some extent I agree with you.

Women and men are predispositioned to be brought up a little bit differently as a gender. And eventhough the bad boy types are still in so much evidence around us, I think that society are teaching men to be more sensitive towards our needs.

And I think the first thing that gets shattered is trust and not any preconceived notions about maleness.

By: SageMother

SageMother — Sun, 29 Jun 2008 15:07:50 +0000

Great article.

Somehow, I have always felt that guys beta themselves up so much when they are cheated on, because they are taught that women need them at a level that is no longer realistic. When she cheats, it shatters his beliefs about many thing he was taught about maleness.

What do you think?