Comments on: Forgiveness For Committing Adultery http://www.idcheaters.com/2007/02/forgiveness-for-committing-adultery.html Real Cheating and Infidelity - Stories and Advice Thu, 26 Aug 2010 20:54:23 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: kernow http://www.idcheaters.com/2007/02/forgiveness-for-committing-adultery.html/comment-page-1#comment-152096 kernow Wed, 12 Aug 2009 17:28:38 +0000 http://www.idcheaters.com/?p=10#comment-152096 I think Taggart is right, the cheater has to own the blame/responsibility for cheating. I think it would be unhealthy not to address it. I think Taggart is right, the cheater has to own the blame/responsibility for cheating. I think it would be unhealthy not to address it.

]]> By: kernow http://www.idcheaters.com/2007/02/forgiveness-for-committing-adultery.html/comment-page-1#comment-152095 kernow Wed, 12 Aug 2009 17:27:21 +0000 http://www.idcheaters.com/?p=10#comment-152095 Taggart is right, the cheater has to own the blame/responsibility for cheating. I think it would be unhealthy not to address it. Taggart is right, the cheater has to own the blame/responsibility for cheating. I think it would be unhealthy not to address it.

]]> By: deltic http://www.idcheaters.com/2007/02/forgiveness-for-committing-adultery.html/comment-page-1#comment-152090 deltic Wed, 12 Aug 2009 17:05:25 +0000 http://www.idcheaters.com/?p=10#comment-152090 I agree Taggart, without that I don't see how you can find a way forward, but once it has been dealt with, you have to make a new start, you cant keep coming back to it. I agree Taggart, without that I don’t see how you can find a way forward, but once it has been dealt with, you have to make a new start, you cant keep coming back to it.

]]> By: Taggart http://www.idcheaters.com/2007/02/forgiveness-for-committing-adultery.html/comment-page-1#comment-152024 Taggart Wed, 12 Aug 2009 02:05:01 +0000 http://www.idcheaters.com/?p=10#comment-152024 I agree that someone who's cheated should "own" the blame for their actions, even if there were things that may have contributed to the mistake. I think that kind of approach would be much easier to try to deal with from the point of view of the person who's been cheated on. I agree that someone who’s cheated should “own” the blame for their actions, even if there were things that may have contributed to the mistake.

I think that kind of approach would be much easier to try to deal with from the point of view of the person who’s been cheated on.

]]> By: deltic http://www.idcheaters.com/2007/02/forgiveness-for-committing-adultery.html/comment-page-1#comment-151929 deltic Tue, 11 Aug 2009 12:03:46 +0000 http://www.idcheaters.com/?p=10#comment-151929 There will always be an element of blame, it is the starting point for addressing what happened and accepting responsibility and finding a way forward. There will always be an element of blame, it is the starting point for addressing what happened and accepting responsibility and finding a way forward.

]]> By: justontime http://www.idcheaters.com/2007/02/forgiveness-for-committing-adultery.html/comment-page-1#comment-151924 justontime Tue, 11 Aug 2009 11:47:55 +0000 http://www.idcheaters.com/?p=10#comment-151924 What nonsense to say that blame is not part of the answer. It has to have a place because the cheater has to take responsibility for what he/she has done and the one cheated on has to look at the circumstances that led to it. It isn't anger that is destructive, but how you manage the anger can be damaging to yourself. What nonsense to say that blame is not part of the answer. It has to have a place because the cheater has to take responsibility for what he/she has done and the one cheated on has to look at the circumstances that led to it. It isn’t anger that is destructive, but how you manage the anger can be damaging to yourself.

]]> By: Taggart http://www.idcheaters.com/2007/02/forgiveness-for-committing-adultery.html/comment-page-1#comment-144416 Taggart Wed, 13 May 2009 14:03:26 +0000 http://www.idcheaters.com/?p=10#comment-144416 I think that article offers a very positive approach to a very difficult situation. I think we'd probably have just a slightly easier time in dealing with this sort of thing if we knew how many others in our lives have been in similar spots, but have kept them secret. I think there would be some benefit from the shared experience. I think that article offers a very positive approach to a very difficult situation.

I think we’d probably have just a slightly easier time in dealing with this sort of thing if we knew how many others in our lives have been in similar spots, but have kept them secret. I think there would be some benefit from the shared experience.

]]> By: kernow http://www.idcheaters.com/2007/02/forgiveness-for-committing-adultery.html/comment-page-1#comment-143747 kernow Tue, 05 May 2009 20:28:34 +0000 http://www.idcheaters.com/?p=10#comment-143747 This article gave me plenty to think about,and it provided some very helpful advice. This article gave me plenty to think about,and it provided some very helpful advice.

]]> By: justontime http://www.idcheaters.com/2007/02/forgiveness-for-committing-adultery.html/comment-page-1#comment-142500 justontime Mon, 20 Apr 2009 08:32:18 +0000 http://www.idcheaters.com/?p=10#comment-142500 I thought this was a very well presented, thought provoking and helpful article, with good advice. I thought this was a very well presented, thought provoking and helpful article, with good advice.

]]> By: SageMother http://www.idcheaters.com/2007/02/forgiveness-for-committing-adultery.html/comment-page-1#comment-11917 SageMother Sun, 26 Oct 2008 21:39:27 +0000 http://www.idcheaters.com/?p=10#comment-11917 "Anger is destructive,...." I see this statement often and agree that anger is often destructive. Do you think its being destructive is due to our being taught that anger is wrong, or is it destructive because we aren't taught what to do with it, without denying its presence? “Anger is destructive,….”

I see this statement often and agree that anger is often destructive.

Do you think its being destructive is due to our being taught that anger is wrong, or is it destructive because we aren’t taught what to do with it, without denying its presence?

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