In the past, it seemed like reading body language to judge guilt may not have been in effect, at least in some cultures. Tribal groups of centuries back used to figure out if a native committed a crime using pain tests, such as dipping a hand in boiling water, walking on fiery coals, and others.
For instance, a native whose hand came out scalded after a dip in hot water is considered guilty at the time. Luckily, no such judging process exists anymore and we have the chance to disprove allegations by appearing in court and giving our statements. However, it may not be easy either, because it requires knowledge of reading body language.
How can you tell if the other person is lying through his teeth? There are several ways to tell. One is when the other person is unable to look you in the eye as he tells his lie. Thus, if you ask your partner if he has been cheating on you, you will know that something is amiss if he says he hasn’t but looks elsewhere while he says so.
Of course, there are people who have perfected the art of lying that the eye test does not always work. Other indicators of lying include restless hands (that is, he keeps touching his face, his arms, fixing his clothes, or tinkering with something), ill timing of gestures (that is, his body language seems to be off-kilter and awkward), or increased defensiveness. A person who has been accused of lying gets rather anxious as he tries to disprove the allegation.
Here’s another way you can also tell if the person is lying. When you suddenly shift to another topic, he also shifts to a more comfortable and relaxed state. A person who lies will want to avoid talking about the tense subject as much as possible, so he will most definitely try to stay at the lighter topic and try to expand on that so that you will forget about the original issue.
Most people have lied one way or another in their life. In fact, lying has become part of human nature. Sometimes we have to tell lies in order to avoid hurting somebody else. As the saying goes, what the person doesn’t know won’t hurt him. However, if discovering the truth is what you’re after, then these tips mentioned here will help you find out if you’re being duped or not.
About the Author
Michael Lee is the author of How to be a Red Hot Persuasion Wizard… in 20 days or less, an ebook that reveals mind-altering persuasion techniques. Get a sample chapter and highly-stimulating “Get What You Want” advice at http://www.20daypersuasion.com/. He is the Co-Founder of http://www.self-improvement-millionaires.com and is licensed as a Certified Public Accountant.
People go to great lengths to gain secret powers, especially over wayward spouses! I bet this author makes a ton with his unique approach to relationship management.
SageMother, isn’t that so very much the nature of society today. Everyone is cashing in on everyone else’s misfortune.
Diva,
It would be good for everyone to stop and think a little before they look to someone else for help with their basic needs. There are so many people that appear to offer something new, but are simply repackaging everything from common sense to simple deep awareness without evaluating the ethics of employing “secrets” to manage their lives and relationships.
I really would hate to think that someone would use these tips to decide whether their spouse is lying to them or not. These signals are just too easy to misinterpret with this little information to base your knowledge on.
SageMother,
If people just had the ability to think clearly during a time of duress then I don’t think they’ll have relationship problems.
And you are right, everything is always repackaged to be something new or to start a new trend.
I had a girlfriend once who never listed to all of our advices about her relationships, but she will spend money to go visit a psychic to see what the pyschic thinks about all of this. She’s even gone to counselling just for the sake of looking like she’s trying to work on her relationship. And then, go to her pyschic the minute it’s done to see what’s happening behind the scenes that she can’t see.
It’s just so bizarre how people try to find solutions to their problems.
Green-Moo, I especially love the eye test….
It’s certainly something to use if you feel the need. Some kinds of sociopaths can lie and not give anything away with their expressions or gestures; there are some that can outwit lie detectors.
I think the book would be an interesting read, as long as you apply common sense to individual situations. My son has Asperger Syndrome he doesn’t have the imagination to lie, but he never gives anyone eye contact. He leaps from subject to subject, not because he is evading something difficult, but because he has ‘pet’ subjects that he is totally obsessive about.
It is probably safest to interpret how your internal organs are reacting to a situation, than to try to decipher someone else’s body language.
It is your limits that are most important, after all.
I could use that knowledge for future reference, I am not implying that my husband is always lieing to me but it would be useful info.
I have seen body language used in other situations. Because I avoid using shortcuts as much as possible, I am not sure if the language was interpreted the “right” way by the lady using it.
It just seemed that it really kept her from listening to the words being spoken.
mollyL, and sometimes, there really might not be anything wrong if they are really that “good” in hiding things.
justontime, I’m sure that your son is also quite adjusted.
I think this really more applies to people who have something to hide and their spouses are catching on that something is just not right.
SageMother, not sure I would rely too much on what my internal organs are saying either
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