Comments on: Can Jealousy Be a Path to Unconditional Love?

By: Imaginary Diva

Imaginary Diva — Fri, 05 Dec 2008 00:27:19 +0000

justontime, I think the issue would be to learn to trust better on top of communicating better.

By: Imaginary Diva

Imaginary Diva — Thu, 04 Dec 2008 23:57:52 +0000

mollyL, and I am so lucky that my husband is the same way also.

I could have married my other exes that had trust issues and I am not sure where that would have gotten me.

Probably into a lot of trouble …. that’s for sure.

By: Liza

Liza — Tue, 14 Oct 2008 02:11:12 +0000

Wow, the concept of jealousy being my teacher is pretty new and interesting, something that I would like to examine a bit closer.

By: SageMother

SageMother — Mon, 13 Oct 2008 22:40:59 +0000

I don’t think too many people could avoid jealousy, currently, but the day may come where training children to share will be extended to include replacing jealousy with a different, emotional reaction.

IF you can train a boy to use the potty……

By: berlinlife06

berlinlife06 — Mon, 13 Oct 2008 18:01:14 +0000

Experiencing jealousy is horrible! I am a very jealous person and it is very hard trying not to be so jealous… I hate it. But I don’t know if I can avoid it.

By: SageMother

SageMother — Sun, 12 Oct 2008 22:20:24 +0000

I can understand that jealousy serves a purpose. It is a warning that something we rely on may be unavailable soon.

I also see where it may be allowed to remain as an artifact of childhood, where cooperation and sharing are not not conducive to survival, especially if food becomes scarce and you cannot obtain food and clothing on your own.

As adults we are capable of fending for ourselves within the parameters society allows. The more independent women are, the less they are dependent on males, so the need for jealousy as it relates to daily, physical necessities may become a thing of the past, or be seen as a form of immaturity.

This doesn’t address all of the emotional nuances, but might we see societies, and the humans within them, lose or outgrow jealousy?

By: justontime

justontime — Thu, 07 Aug 2008 09:22:33 +0000

I think I agree with Molly here, jealousy is a corrosive emotion. It has never been an issue between me and my husband, you can’t hold on to someon by being jealous. My husband needs to be free to be himself just as I do. If there is trust and communication I can’t see why someone would need to feel jealous.
I would be interested to read this book.

By: mollyL

mollyL — Wed, 06 Aug 2008 18:58:23 +0000

Sage and Diva, I think you have good points. I had never thought of it, but my mother exhibited no jealousy towards my father. There was no reason to, so she didn’t.
It never occurred to me to be jealous of my husband for the same reason.

By: Imaginary Diva

Imaginary Diva — Fri, 02 May 2008 02:43:12 +0000

SageMother, I personally think that the act of jealousy gets handed down through generations.

I find that my friends who are extra jealous have picked it up from one of their parents. After all, we follow the examples that have been set for us growing up. Don’t you think?

By: Imaginary Diva

Imaginary Diva — Fri, 02 May 2008 02:31:17 +0000

amc, you are so right about that. What you need is to find a partner that knows how to dampen the green in your jealous feelings.

I am a very jealous person to and my husband really does go out of his way to respect the boundaries I have set. I know that none of my other exes have ever done this for me.