Compersion is a made up word which means the opposite of jealousy. Many people have told me this work has been a lifesaver! It’s guaranteed to raise your consciousness and give you a new perspective. Good medicine!
Dr. Anapol explains, “The book grew out of my own experiences and those of many clients and workshop participants over the years processing their jealousy. It consists of a collection of one-page meditations. These meditations are intended to challenge and restructure common beliefs about the nature of love and relationship. This process of self-examination turns up whatever may be in the way of true unconditional love. The lesson is to let jealousy be your teacher.”
She will be presenting these teachings experientially as part of Tantra: The Yoga of Love, at Pura Vida Retreat Center near Atlanta, Georgia, March 16th – 18th. People interested in participating may read more and register by visiting: http://www.sacredspaceinstitute.com/calendar.html. (Space is limited so early registration is advisable).
“Compersion is a made up word which means the opposite of jealousy. Many people have told me this work has been a lifesaver! It’s guaranteed to raise your consciousness and give you a new perspective. Good medicine!”
Deborah Anapol, Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology, is the author of Polyamory: The New Love Without Limits; The Seven Natural Laws of Love (http://www.sevenlawsoflove.com) and Compersion: Using Jealousy as a Path to Unconditional Love. She has been working with groups and individuals exploring conscious relating and sacred sexuality for over 20 years. She is a popular writer, seminar leader, and relationship coach. Her work has been featured on television & radio talk shows nationwide. Deborah’s gentle wisdom and courageous heart have inspired many seekers on this path.
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Compersion sounds like it could be a very valuable tool in not only your love life but in your everyday life as well. Jealousy is such a corrosive emotion; it can grow and choke out the finer points of love. Everyone should strive to eliminate jealousy in their lives.
mollyL, I’d love to believer of eliminating jealousy but I even I can’t help it.
And not just sometimes either….
As a fellow jealous creature, I know it can eat you alive from the inside, out. It’s a VERY strong and powerful emotion to try to eliminate. I’ve been working on lessening it for many years. It’s just extremely hard to get rid of it when someone gives you a reason to be jealous.
This opens the door to a really good question.
Are we taught to be jealous?
After all, there is a certain amount of ownership assumed with most romantic and long term relationships. Marriage is the ultimate as you even get a “license” indicating the date the two of you are fused together.
Are we taught to react this way?
amc, you are so right about that. What you need is to find a partner that knows how to dampen the green in your jealous feelings.
I am a very jealous person to and my husband really does go out of his way to respect the boundaries I have set. I know that none of my other exes have ever done this for me.
SageMother, I personally think that the act of jealousy gets handed down through generations.
I find that my friends who are extra jealous have picked it up from one of their parents. After all, we follow the examples that have been set for us growing up. Don’t you think?
Sage and Diva, I think you have good points. I had never thought of it, but my mother exhibited no jealousy towards my father. There was no reason to, so she didn’t.
It never occurred to me to be jealous of my husband for the same reason.
I think I agree with Molly here, jealousy is a corrosive emotion. It has never been an issue between me and my husband, you can’t hold on to someon by being jealous. My husband needs to be free to be himself just as I do. If there is trust and communication I can’t see why someone would need to feel jealous.
I would be interested to read this book.
I can understand that jealousy serves a purpose. It is a warning that something we rely on may be unavailable soon.
I also see where it may be allowed to remain as an artifact of childhood, where cooperation and sharing are not not conducive to survival, especially if food becomes scarce and you cannot obtain food and clothing on your own.
As adults we are capable of fending for ourselves within the parameters society allows. The more independent women are, the less they are dependent on males, so the need for jealousy as it relates to daily, physical necessities may become a thing of the past, or be seen as a form of immaturity.
This doesn’t address all of the emotional nuances, but might we see societies, and the humans within them, lose or outgrow jealousy?
Experiencing jealousy is horrible! I am a very jealous person and it is very hard trying not to be so jealous… I hate it. But I don’t know if I can avoid it.
I don’t think too many people could avoid jealousy, currently, but the day may come where training children to share will be extended to include replacing jealousy with a different, emotional reaction.
IF you can train a boy to use the potty……
Wow, the concept of jealousy being my teacher is pretty new and interesting, something that I would like to examine a bit closer.
mollyL, and I am so lucky that my husband is the same way also.
I could have married my other exes that had trust issues and I am not sure where that would have gotten me.
Probably into a lot of trouble …. that’s for sure.
justontime, I think the issue would be to learn to trust better on top of communicating better.