Comments on: Infidelity Expert Tells Suspicious Spouses: Hire a Private Eye

By: Justontime

Justontime — Mon, 01 Sep 2008 22:30:08 +0000

I’m not sure that’s true Imaginary Diva, we don’t have proof that someone loves us or that we love someone, it is an abstract feeling. Their actions may be loving and thoughtful but we don’t have ‘proof’. Doubt is also an abstract feeling, so is trust. If my partner’s behaviour had caused me to doubt and then to lose trust, I don’t think I would need ‘proof’ I would know that what we had was gone.

By: Imaginary Diva

Imaginary Diva — Mon, 01 Sep 2008 20:12:29 +0000

SageMother, our society is based on having “proof” when making decisions that can affect their future.

By: Justontime

Justontime — Sat, 30 Aug 2008 18:41:35 +0000

If you have your doubts and suspect cheating but your partner just tells you that you are paranoid, you have to make a decision. Something about the relationship must be wrong, do you really want to spend your savings to prove you are right? I know some people would need absolute proof and it’s good that this sort of service is available, but I think I would hang on to my money.

By: Imaginary Diva

Imaginary Diva — Sat, 30 Aug 2008 02:27:01 +0000

Liza, that’s true. Usually, you do get the “tell-tale” signs that your partner is cheating….

But what if he or she constantly tells you that you are wrong, or even paranoid? Sooner or later, you are going to need some solid proof.

By: Liza

Liza — Mon, 25 Aug 2008 22:38:55 +0000

Sometimes the clues can be misleading, for the past few months I have been working to meet a deadline, I have told my spouse about it, but when he picks me up at nights, another guy usually gets a ride with us. In some circumstances this could be interpreted another way.

By: SageMother

SageMother — Tue, 08 Jul 2008 13:55:58 +0000

I can understand wanting proof of infidelity.

It helps ground your suspicions so that you don’t keep doubting your sanity.

By: Liza

Liza — Tue, 08 Jul 2008 12:11:42 +0000

I think most persons know when their spouse is getting distracted whether it is by work or someone else, so as you guys said deal with it, is the relationship worth saving? Make a choice.

By: Sharon

Sharon — Mon, 03 Mar 2008 20:45:21 +0000

Green-Moo, you are so right about that.

Sometimes we get lost in the process. And we got lost in the anger of the situation that we forget that we really just have two choices – sort it out or let it go.

By: Green-Moo

Green-Moo — Mon, 18 Feb 2008 08:13:56 +0000

Unless you’re after a divorce settlement, then I don’t understand why someone would be so keen to ‘prove’ that they’re spouse is cheating. If you suspect that they’re cheating, then there’s soemthing wrong in your relationship & either you sort it out or you don’t. Proving your theory doesn’t really make any difference! At least, that’s my take on it!